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[–] riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

that's what i though about my gender and then i always got mad at people guessing without asking me and guessing wrong and it got awkward and honestly i should have just told them cause honestly if the ignorant mountain doesn't come to you, you gotta be the bigger bitch and come to the mounten or something i don't fucking know

fuck this society and it's normativities but unfortunately it won't change on it's own :<

[–] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 4 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

The secret is to just not care what people call you when you're not there. Even when I'm in the room and people are talking about me it's mostly just funny to listen to whatever they come up with.

[–] riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 6 hours ago

i'm personally not there yet. it still hurts when people (mis)gender me. i hope to get to that point where i don't care anymore tho :3

[–] Makhno@lemmy.world 36 points 10 hours ago (3 children)

Not my job to know what someone wants to be called...? The childish entitlement sheesh

[–] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 3 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

call me whatever you want I genuinely don't care. you can call me he she they or it I genuinely don't care. the funniest thing a patient called me is a reference to one of my many obvious physical deformities. if you care what I'm called that's very genuinely a you problem. and honestly the more it bothers people to not know what to call me the funnier it gets.

[–] teslekova@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 hours ago

I love it when kids call me fat or shout "Why is that fat man so hairy?" and their parents look mortified and tell them not to be rude while I laugh and agree with the kid, or answer them. For example, that last kid I told I was actually way less hairy than when I was a kid: back then I looked just like a little ball of fur and all you could see was my feet!

[–] riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 7 hours ago

heyy, it's ok if you do not know someones gender. it's really not that important. just treat it as the unknown that it is, and either refer to the person gender neutrally, or ask if you need to know. just please do not guess, because that just leads to you accidentally hurting people :)

[–] voidsignal@lemmy.world 27 points 10 hours ago (2 children)

Yeah. I don't mind calling you whatever you like if you tell me. Otherwise I just don't give a shit and I'll call you whatever I feel like.

[–] teslekova@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 hours ago (1 children)
[–] voidsignal@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago

wow how did you know?

[–] lauha@lemmy.world 20 points 9 hours ago (2 children)

I hate introducing myself. how is you not knowing my name a me problem. figure it out idiot.

[–] gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

i think the whole meme is a joke :)

[–] lauha@lemmy.world 2 points 39 minutes ago

Definitely :D

[–] BarbecueCowboy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

I know you're kidding, but I work in a corporate environment, wouldn't it be great if we could skip the introduction phase in meetings.

[–] lauha@lemmy.world 1 points 38 minutes ago

Maybe everyone could wear a nametag with name in large letters and we could just get the job done.

[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 26 points 10 hours ago

Guess I’ll use my mind reading powers?

[–] Mulligrubs@lemmy.world 6 points 7 hours ago

It's not a me problem either, it has absolutely nothing to do with me. Don't come out, come out, whatever.

[–] morto@piefed.social 7 points 9 hours ago (2 children)

The solution to that is just using random pronouns. If they make an angry look, you used the wrong one

[–] xkbx@startrek.website 4 points 8 hours ago

Hey, if that’s what shit wanted to call shitself, who am I to deny shim?

[–] applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 6 hours ago

the oblivion persuasion wheel of pronoun selection. just be sure not to pick the wrong one too many times or their opinion of you will be unrecoverable.