For fucks sake, just ask her out
this post was submitted on 26 May 2026
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More engagement bait.
OP needs a better hobby.
They should try street racing
I swear they already asked this exact question but maybe it was under a different username.
Is a Reddit related thing
41 posts by OP, only 4 comments on a 24 day old account..
Yeah OP definitely needs a better hobby lol
Oh hey its a post by @Grimreaper@sopuli.xyz / @PixelNomad@sopuli.xyz alt account. Back obsessing over people with money dating eh?
Oh come on, you were doing really well with your questions being interesting and novel and now you're back to asking nonsense that you've asked and had answered a billion times before.
No, but some rich people date shallow canals!
Yes. And some smart people date stupid people. Some people even date people on the opposite end of the political spectrum. I wouldn't date someone with opposing political beliefs but some people do it
You have to work so you can't be available. They don't have to work so they can't be available.
Yes. Because they can.
What?
There are attractive qualities besides money like personality, kindness etc. So it happens sometimes.
It seems obvious to you and me that human qualities other than wealth come into play in a relationship.
But OP's question is valid, because he's asking about a generally psychopathic group of people dating regular human beings, and psychopaths don't feel anything for anyone, and always do things with an angle. And that angle in the case of rich people usually is getting richer, which they can't do if they date poor people. Hence the question.
They do. I’m currently a “poor person” (I make 65k a year) dating a rich person (who makes 200k+ a year). And yes, he makes it obvious that he makes that much. It’s a struggle sometimes.
If I earned 65k a year I'd feel independently wealthy & carefree & I wouldn't date any condescending asshole who makes me feel bad about myself.
I do not think that amount is “rich”…
I don't think the fist amount is "poor"...
fist ✊🏼
If 65k is poor, I need to reassess my opinion of myself as lower middle class.
Maybe a wealthy person with low self-esteem. Hey it could happen. There's someone for everyone.
I am lower middle class and my girlfriend is disabled and indigent. Our relationship is unbalanced and will probably never be financially fair, but there is just something special about her that keeps me coming back, and she rocks my world in the sack.
Compared to my able bodied millionaire ex wife, she is a significant upgrade. Poor and irresistible beats rich and malicious every time.
How does she rock your world in the sack if she's disabled?
Connective tissue disorder: very bendy with long and elegant features. The rest is our business, lol.
Ehlers Danlos Syndrome? Disabled? Does the government pay people to be on permanent vacation for being bendy & elegant?
She has several conditions, but since she doesn’t have a job, her insurance sucks, which has made it a lot more difficult to get government assistance. She declined quickly over the last several years, so she went from having a stable job that paid much more than mine to suddenly being completely unable to manage her daily life. For the first year of unemployment, a lot of time was wasted with medical professionals who thought she just needed to work out her legs more and get back to work. It has been an adjustment, but we’re working on it.
It is somewhat of a long process of seeing loads of doctors, trying to get things on paper that qualify for disability, and then applying and seeing if it sticks. Because many of her problems are exceedingly rare and poorly understood, it has not been easy to get definitive diagnoses that can easily be used to get long term disability.
She also got bamboozled by some medical credit companies before she met me, so we’re dealing with a few lawsuits trying to resolve that. Plus, she was in a car accident recently which has set her back. I guess my point is that we’ve been working on getting her government assistance, but there has been an overwhelming amount of things going on, and the process is slow.
I say she’s bendy and elegant because those are the positives. She is also in constant pain, suffers from mental issues, and we’re currently finding out if she will have a short lifespan from the toll on her internal organs. Within all that suffering though are also unique opportunities for trust and connection that I’ve never experienced in an able bodied relationship—there is a beautiful intimacy in the act of carrying someone up a flight of stairs or feeding them when their hands won’t work. The way she looks at me, I never have to feel insecure—that lady loves me and lets me know it every moment of the day.
There is a lot of suffering that comes with chronic genetic conditions, and it has completely reframed how I see life. That said, under all that disability is a really unique, intelligent, and talented person who I have fallen in love with. She is the kind of person who is 100% worthy of help, and though I don’t know how we’ll end up getting there, we are focused on finding the right support so we can live a life together and so that she can reach her potential despite her setbacks.
It happened to me one time, but she and her family were not really typical wealthy people. She was making 80 K a year, and her mother has something like 35 million, but her mother thought it was a huge victory to find eggs on clearance for $.80 instead of $1.50. So they didn’t really see themselves as rich, except for things like knowing if someone messed with them, they could sue them into oblivion.
My girlfriend was set to inherit 10 million and had plenty of money. I got tired of her acting like she was totally stressed out about $400 when that sort of money was never going to make any difference to her, especially since her career trajectory was likely to result in her making about 200 K within the next few years. I was making about 30,000 as an artist after coming back from a health problem where I was making zero, and I was less stressed about money than she was. So, we could’ve had a relationship where I enjoyed some sort of unusual luxuries that I could never afford myself, but they were so frugal that we didn’t. And being frugal had absolutely nothing to do with how they got their money. I think it was just a hold over from before her mom struck it lucky, from back when they were poor. But anyway, to her credit, my girlfriend never acted like they were better than me or like I was poor or as if I was with her because she was wealthy.