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[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 148 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Yes, women can be lesbians.

[–] Klear@piefed.world 43 points 1 month ago (2 children)
[–] Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 20 points 1 month ago

Or full-time, or even both

[–] Nutteman@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

They can have a little slommy

[–] Forgottengoldfish@lemmy.world 73 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] Karl@literature.cafe 24 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] BucketBong@p.hobo.social 28 points 1 month ago (1 children)

We can close the post now.

[–] Karl@literature.cafe 9 points 1 month ago
[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 64 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Yup.

Cisgender woman here, I've had two trans girlfriends in the past. They were definitely 100% women ... I checked very very thoroughly.

[–] ccunning@lemmy.world 65 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Wait.

Are you saying cisgender women can be lesbians too?

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 42 points 1 month ago

Yes, these days that's allowed too - we're living in the future, after all!

[–] kkj@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Ah, but were they lesbians? Did you make sure they weren't bi or pan?

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 month ago

One of them definitely was, lol

[–] venusaur@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] Assassassin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 points 1 month ago

Their lesbian license, obviously

[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 43 points 1 month ago (2 children)

About a third of all trans women are as a matter of fact

[–] Noodle07@lemmy.world 20 points 1 month ago (1 children)

About 2/3 of Lemmy as well /s

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 20 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

That's just blahaj.zone .

[–] Karl@literature.cafe 7 points 1 month ago

Thats interesting.

[–] chocrates@piefed.world 32 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Trans is their sexual identity and lesbian is their sexual preference. They are not mutually exclusive.

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 9 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Pretty sure their sexual (or gender) identity is "woman". The trans thing is usually more a stumbling block than an identity.

[–] chocrates@piefed.world 5 points 1 month ago

Yes you are right

Gender identity*

[–] Noel_Skum@sh.itjust.works 23 points 1 month ago (3 children)

If born on the island of Lesbos then, yes, definitely… if born somewhere else then the answer to this question might depend on where you get your definition of words.

Love is love, whatever, but sometimes labels can do damage.

[–] owenfromcanada@lemmy.ca 43 points 1 month ago

Otherwise it's just sparkling homosexuality

[–] SeductiveTortoise@piefed.social 6 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Woman*

~*lesbian_style~

That's a bit cumbersome, isn't it? I'm fine with "lesbian woman", no matter where they're from 💖

Oh my, I'm having a hard time setting the markdown right...

[–] applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 month ago

If they're not from the Lesbos region pf greece it's only sparkling homosexuality

[–] Tedesche@lemmy.world 10 points 1 month ago

Trans status is about gender identity; gay/lesbian/bisexual is about sexual orientation.

So, a trans woman (MtF) who likes women is a lesbian, because she identifies as a woman who likes women. Her sex identified at birth is not considered a legitimate factor. Likewise, a trans woman (MtF) who likes men is not a gay man, she is a straight woman.

[–] daggermoon@piefed.world 10 points 1 month ago
[–] ThunderQueen@lemmy.world 9 points 1 month ago

Ive been a trans lesbian for 5 years now. Its great. Im technically pan but i dont really hook up with guys.. women are just so 🤌🤤

[–] nightmare786@leminal.space 9 points 1 month ago

they call it a transbian

[–] RoddyStiggs@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Transgender women are women.

Women who love women exclusively are lesbians.

So, yes.

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[–] queerlilhayseed@piefed.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] ThunderQueen@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

Usually with my tongue or fingers. Or hers.

[–] GarboDog@lemmy.world 6 points 1 month ago

Yeah- if women love other women you’d typically call that lesbian coded.

[–] ImgurRefugee114@reddthat.com 6 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Sex, gender, expression, and orientation are separate dimensions and can vary independently. While there is coupling and correlation, they are distinct

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

"lesbian" inherently couples gender identity and sexual preference, no? Language and identity are certainly malleable, but it would be news to me than "lesbian" got the "gay" treatment (where the meaning did change from "homosexual man" to "homosexual or bisexual", depending on the social circle).

[–] ThunderQueen@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

A trans woman is a woman. If they are attracted to women, they are a lesbian. Regardless of whether or not they are trans.

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[–] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

And even within that, T4T is a common preference categorization as well, whether it's for inherent attraction or just practical reasons. There are terms that prefer solely to the target gender so for instance I'm androphilic (vs gynophilic) mostly in my romantic aspect. I don't mind both sexually, I've just found women's personalities to be difficult to deal with / have difficulty dealing with me romantically (practical preference). Now, gender wise I'm roughly here:

♀️<----------|×--------->♂️

And my visual preference for a partner is about

♀️<------|---|------|---->♂️

And my personality preference is about

♀️<---------||---|------>♂️

so really CAN I be gay? Especially if I was right on the line there. I will say hubs seems to prefer roughly (in both aspects):

♀️<--|-------|-----|---->♂️

which is pretty neatly bisexual.

[–] webp@mander.xyz 5 points 1 month ago

Can women be lesbian 🤔

[–] thechosen2nd@piefed.social 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

The Ancient Pact of the Covenant allows it.

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 2 points 1 month ago

On the blood of our fathers. On the blood of our sons...

Yes cuddling with my gf right now

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Do I have to get a divorce if it comes out that the answer is no?

[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 month ago

No, you start throwing bricks

[–] Sunsofold@lemmings.world 1 points 1 month ago

People are currently fighting over who gets to definitively answer that question.

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