Or the mans is working and can't be on the phone all day, or his mom called, or literally a million other excuses. If you want instant and consistent responses, call them.
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After you text to make sure they're down to talk. Gotta have some consideration for them.
Yea thats fair. I'm an on call worker and also an emergency contact for customers so I'm actually relieved if its just a friend calling me randomly instead of the boss or a customer. Now that I've thought about it, whenever i wanna discuss plans or details with a friend i usually send them a text asking them to call me when they can.
Calling just because text response is slow is a Red Flag.
You best have something urgent to say
I meant more so if you want to hold a consistent conversation with someone, not just because it was a slow response. Also there are many people who prefer to call. If i call a friend and they dont pick up, they'll just hit me back later, just the same as if they didn't have time to respond to my text in the moment.
I hate calling on the phone. If you want to have a real time conversation with me, meet me in person. We’ll have a beer, or go out for lunch, or watch a movie, or go for a walk.
If you live too far away (or you don’t know me), you’re stuck with text. The only exception is my mom, who lives on the other side of the continent from me. I put up with phone calls to talk to her.
Based retard
Or he's nervous and kept rewriting the message for 25 minutes. Could literally be anything. And 25 minutes is not a long time.
Literally me. RCS messaging gave me away with the typing indicator appearing, disappearing and reappearing over and over
That's why I disable it
I'm just imagine some grandma level typing speed. One finger at a time 4 letters per minute.
One letter per 4 minutes...
People can have lives AND care about you at the same time
i've been told that i don't care about people if i take more than a few minutes to reply.
then i tell them i don't touch my phone for hours a day, and they tell me i'm a cruel awful person with no feelings.
weird.
If you want to chat live we can hop on IRC milady.
Or he saw the message, thought about the response, forgot it, checked again and realized he hadn't sent a reply.
Or he's away from the phone for whatever reason, which happens when you start to break free from its chains.
I once asked a question and went 2 days without a reply before I noticed that I never hit the freaking send button. 😬
Or anime episodes
Or he's working and uses the pomodoro method
If you're texting it's because you don't need/desire an immediate response. Judging someone by how long it take them to respond to a text is a red flag. If you're going to be needy that's fine but at least make it clear.
have you met insecure people?
nothing you can do will ever make them happy.
Yes, mom, it's video games. Or masturbation
Seeing this get reposted here and on reddit every month for the last 10 years is a Sisyphean burden
Man play video game woman no understand funny must repist every five seconds for all eternity