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I experience Lemmy as a reflection of many of the problems in the world; there seems to be little effort to understand and respect different viewpoints. Instead of being curious about opinions one disagrees with, the community often feels almost aggressive. People end up in their own trenches. What about trying to be more open and curious about our differences instead?

Apparently we believe in freedom of speech—so long as the speech is something we agree with....

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[–] Bluetreefrog@lemmy.world 2 points 11 hours ago

More of a rant than a genuine question. Locking.

[–] MyMindIsLikeAnOcean@piefed.world 6 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Give us an example what you’re referring to…your comment doesn’t mean a lot of without any context.

“Freedom of speech” is a fraught concept. Freedom of speech doesn’t mean one must accept the views of another, for example. Freedom of speech is also accepting reaction to your speech. Each speaker is “owed” whatever freedom you’re proposing.

[–] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 7 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Yeah, we've hand now hundreds, maybe even more low grade trolls butthurt here that they aren't allowed to be racist sexist piles of shit and whine about free speech. No dudes, we have the right not to host your shit. Not saying OP is one of them, but I'll throw a link at 90% of the people who post here about free speech are under that umbrella.

And every time I point it out I offer that they may start their own instance with all the hate they want. So far I have seen almost no one do that.

[–] MyMindIsLikeAnOcean@piefed.world 4 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

I’ll preface by repeating what you said: we don’t know what the OP is talking about.

But, yeah, very often when somebody is complaining about free speech…they don’t mean free speech. What they mean is that their opinion should be accepted without criticism or consequence.

What this outlook has resulted in, in many places in the contemporary western world (the world I’m familiar with), is that hate speech, aggressive speech and threatening speech are protected - even encouraged - while the speech of those functionally suppressed or intimidated is ignored or attacked.

My opinion is that conservative speech has become a huge problem. It’s ironically social media bubbles that make so-called conservatives believe that their once marginalized opinions are more popular or legitimate than they are. I believe that conservatives want everybody to be forced to listen to their opinions until they agree with them or face consequences if they don’t.

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[–] Chippys_mittens@lemmy.world 8 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago) (1 children)

People seem to be much more passionate about their stances here. Even when their stance is completely ridiculous and not rooted in reality. I've only blocked one person so far though (something I've REALLY tried not to do) and I've had a ton of good dialoge. You also can't really express any view that isn't far left.

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 2 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago) (1 children)

passionate is a polite way to acknowledge that they have delusional beliefs and inability to knowledge reality outside of their own head where anything they claim or think is perfect and good.

[–] Chippys_mittens@lemmy.world 2 points 11 hours ago

I try to be polite where possible

[–] SwingingTheLamp@piefed.zip 13 points 17 hours ago (2 children)

Now this is some S-tier trolling, the kind of thing that could've incited a weeks-long flame war back in the Usenet days. The key here is the lack of any specifics, so each reader can interpret the issue differently by filling in the details from their own experiences. And it's framed so that either I agree that Lemmy users have bad attitudes, or I disagree and prove it. *chef's kiss*

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[–] swelter_spark@reddthat.com 2 points 11 hours ago

This is the thing I like least about Lemmy. So many people have no friends or life experience, hate everyone, and want to constantly argue or insult others that it's difficult to avoid them. I block as many as I can, but it takes a lot of the fun out of meeting people and having discussions.

[–] kittykillinit@lemy.lol 3 points 12 hours ago

I'm all for letting people say what they want, but that goes both ways in letting them criticize what you say.

If you don't like them, you can just ignore them. Nobody is saying you have to take the opinions of people on the internet seriously.

[–] MagicShel@lemmy.zip 4 points 13 hours ago

I don't come here for friendly debate or to enrich my worldview. It happens from time to time but there are two many bad faith actors to waste time debating with people that don't already largely align with my priorities and morality.

Within those boundaries I'm happy to rethink things and have nuanced conversations and debate with people I already can largely agree on foundational thinking. But frankly at this point in my life if someone comes on here with "but what if Trump is good," I block. Like in order to get to that point, there has to be extremely little common ground to agree on. There is no hope of reasonable conversation.

Likely some people feel the same about me.

[–] bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works 11 points 16 hours ago (5 children)

I've seen the opposite. I've enjoyed conversation's here and people generally have good facts to back up their point. There's a few assholes but way less than reddit. I'm worried it will get worse though.

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[–] ollie@lemmy.zip 44 points 22 hours ago (29 children)

What have you found is not being tolerated?

[–] Soulcreator@programming.dev 14 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Mention anything about veganism and watch the comments pile on. The Lemmy group mind is not a fan of anything that challenges their currently held viewpoints.

Veganism in particular is hard for some people, because it pokes holes in their current world view and it effectively says you could be doing more, for people who already view themselves as ethical and caring hearing some of those hard truths can feel like an attack.

And on Lemmy in particular people like to shut down dissenting viewpoints such as those.

And please don't hit me with responses on why you think veganism is dumb, I'm merely making an observation as to what is not tolerated on this platform.

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 8 points 17 hours ago (6 children)

Vegans who treat it like a religion are difficult to be around. Vegans who treat it like a personal choice, are not.

That's true of any life choice though. People get offended when other people don't make the same choices or have the same beliefs, because they feel in attacks of invalidates them as a person.

I mean, I don't cheat in relationships and I am monogamous. But for many people that's a controversial statement that I have had a ton of pushback on because it makes them feel attacked if they are cheaters or polyamorous. Usually informing me how 'ignorant' I am, or how 'judgemental' I am... for simple express my own rules for myself.

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[–] bsit@sopuli.xyz 10 points 18 hours ago (8 children)

Discussion about anything spiritual. Mention the word and people automatically assume that you're an extreme right-wing fundamentalist Christian ready to host a sermon about how much God hates homosexuals.

[–] Libb@piefed.social 5 points 12 hours ago

Discussion about anything spiritual.

As an atheist and a Bible-reading dude (as well as a few other 'spirituality' books, among many other types of books), the hate towards anything spirituality-related and religious around here was one of those things I almost immediately noticed after joining, it's even worse regarding anything Christian. The worst for me was not that hate, it is the fact that almost all of it rely on nothing but a desire to do like the others. And very rarely on actual knowledge of what is being hated.

It is one of those things that made me question if I should stay, if the Fediverse was a place one could really expect to have enriching discussions, or merely the exact opposite of those corporate-owned social media platforms that are populated by right-winged haters: collectively-owned social media populated by left-winged haters. Hate is a poor choice. It doesn't matter what one hates.

The one thing that made stay is that, thx to the tools available, it's also very easy to filter out most of that hatred and to suddenly realize that, hidden under that now gone noise, there are indeed quite a few persons wanting to have civilized conversations and that are able to not hate on anyone they disagree with. Not a large crowd, but enough to make it worthwhile to stay and from time to time have an interesting discussion.

That option to filter out the hate, even if it's not perfect, makes the Fediverse quite unique, imho.

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 10 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (1 children)

Yeah. The anti-theism thing here is wild.

I usually just assume they are into healing crystals or yoga, but that's my own bias.

People here love ot hate on bigotry, but are totally blind to their perpetuation of it themselves. Because when they massively overgeneralize anyone who is remotely religions or spiritual based on a tiny extremist minority... it's good! It's fighting injustice and bigotry! But if other people do it, it's bad and evil, and wrong!

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[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 6 points 15 hours ago (2 children)

its there. I have seen it. its also not there. use the block. make the experience you want.

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[–] Libb@piefed.social 24 points 20 hours ago (7 children)

Apparently we believe in freedom of speech—so long as the speech is something we agree with….

As already mentioned, it's not exclusive to Lemmy/the Fediverse and then, thx to the Fediverse itself, we still can resist:

  • the most important thing is that we're not into some centralized platform whose owner can easily shut out anyone. Banning is still a thing obviously (I regularly hear about admin abusing their power) but one always has the ability to change instance or even to create their own which i is not even an option, say, on Reddit or X.
  • Freedom of expression should not mean one should be required to listen to trash ideas. Here again, the Fediverse/Lemmy/Piefed already offers great tools to filter out what and who one doesn't want to hear... without limiting their freedom of expression. Meaning that I, for example, am not forced to see the huge amount of low quality posts that are posted (politics and most memes, stuff like that) and that I can also easily block anyone I consider a pain in the butt or that is trying to troll me. Which I do without any hesitation and without ever threatening their own freedom to express themselves. Something I find a lot more friendly to freedom: theirs as well as mine ;)

The issue runs much deeper as, for most people, it seems to not be enough to be able to mute/block someone or some content they disagree with. They want it to vanish for anyone else too. The most... excited even want their author to be removed from the community. So they like to campaign for ban, or worse.

But here again, it's a much wider issue than with the Fediverse.

It's people not being educated anymore to tolerate divergence of opinions and, a lot more worryingly imho, not being able, because of that lack of proper education, to listen to nuanced thoughts and ideas and to be able to understand that we can disagree without having to hate on one another. They seem to live in a black or white world, populated with two groups of people: friends, those that are liking the same things and the same ideas they do, and foes, those who dare not like one or more of those things and ideas the 'friends' like.

As long as that 'logic' is not challenged and put back in its place (trash reasoning) the intolerance to what is different, which hating on one's values and ideals is, won't go away. Around here, like everywhere else.

[–] Voidian@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (2 children)

It’s people not being educated anymore to tolerate divergence of opinions and, a lot more worryingly imho, not being able, because of that lack of proper education, to listen to nuanced thoughts and ideas and to be able to understand that we can disagree without having to hate on one another.

What's most worrying to me is that people don't even know why they AGREE with the opinions they agree with. For example, most people would agree that bigotry is bad (which it is), but they don't know how to argue about it.

They’ve got the moral instinct, sure, but zero intellectual grounding. And that’s a problem. Because when people don’t understand why something is wrong, they're just one propaganda push away from accepting a new definition of "bigotry" that serves whoever’s in power.

We’re seeing it happen in real time. People repeat opinions like they’re reciting scripture - no thought, no critique, just blind agreement. And now, even asking people to think critically about why bigotry is wrong is seen as suspect. It's an immediate failure of purity testing. You're not supposed to arrive to the conclusion that bigotry is bad by thinking for yourself, you are just supposed to keep repeating the correct slogans. That’s not just lazy, it’s anti-intellectualism, the exact kind of mental rot that populism and fascism thrive on. That's exactly the kind of bullshit that got USA in the state it is right now.

I have literally been called a fascist for telling people to think for themselves.

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 13 points 17 hours ago

Yep. the motto here for most 'free thinkers' is 'agree with me or you are a bad person'. They don't really want to discuss things, they just want to browbeat/bully other people into agreement. They refuse to acknowledge things are complex and that their are various legitimate viewpoints... there can only be their pure and true version of whatever ideology they believe in and anyone who questions their interpretation it is a 'false' believer.

It's idealism and egotism running into each other. So they just feel like going around labeling everything bigotry makes them some paragon of morality and truth and justice. Meanwhile they have no understanding of their own bigotry.

[–] Libb@piefed.social 4 points 15 hours ago

They’ve got the moral instinct, sure, but zero intellectual grounding.

And since we should not trust 'moral' anything without at least some understanding of it... that's not a good situation. At least, that's how I see it.

We’re seeing it happen in real time. People repeat opinions like they’re reciting scripture

Which is funny realizing how most of them are so hostile towards the Bible or anything religion-related while they're at the same time mindlessly repeating/mimicking (what I consider) the worst of all the religious traits: blind adherence to an ideology/ideal, as well as the refusal to listen to critics.

That’s exactly the kind of bullshit that got USA in the state it is right now.

Can't talk about the USA myself: the world is a tad larger and also includes a few foreign countries, including my own: France ;)

I have literally been called a fascist for telling people to think for themselves.

I have been called many names during my almost 60 years on this planet (fascist not even being the worst), and I learned to not bother: hateful believers will remain hateful believers no matter what, even those who only believe in 'social something' instead of 'god'. They won't change, or just maybe their believe switching from one to the latest trendy one. Meanwhile, I will keep on refusing to blindly adhere to any type of faith, with or without a god ;)

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[–] PosiePoser@feddit.org 14 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) (1 children)

I'm going to struggle writing this because the logic is so hard to follow but db0 blocked my whole (GERMAN) instance because my (again, GERMAN) instance moderates against hate-speech against Jews, making us Zionist fascists, somehow.

https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/63525728

Look carefully at the modlogs in the screenshots and understand db0 admins think that it's the feddit.org mods that are in the wrong for removing the hateful comments. It took me several minutes to comprehend that the screenshots were supposed to be proof that Feddit.org people are Zionists, because the mods are removing hate-speech. The screenshots are NOT proof of hatespeech on Feddit against Palestinian people.

In the eyes of db0, the GERMAN INSTANCE IS EVIL because it doesn't platform enough anti-semitism.

The ANARCHIST instance is mad at the GERMAN INSTANCE for not allowing hateful rhetoric of Jewish people.

[–] Pinetten@pawb.social 11 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

This whole DB0 vs. feddit.org situation is a joke. They’re using their "Anarchist Code of Conduct" to justify the exact kind of tribalist garbage it was supposed to stop.

The Code says you can’t disrespect or exclude people just for being part of some "unfavorable group." That got binned fast. Like you say, they're not even showcasing Feddit hosting Zionism, they're showcasing them removing hate-speech which aligns with their own damn Code of Conduct. The hypocrisy couldn't be more palpable.

That "democratic vote" is a joke too. The admins didn’t present a fair debate, they framed it as "Do you stand with the oppressed or with the fascists?" They loaded the language with terms like "Zionist bar problem" and "genocide apologia" to make sure the answer was obvious. That’s not democracy. That’s manipulation. That's blatant fucking propaganda.

It’s like they think anarchism means "do what we say or you’re the real fascists." Actually that's exactly what they think.

[–] Passerby6497@lemmy.world 11 points 18 hours ago

Apparently we believe in freedom of speech—so long as the speech is something we agree with....

Freedom of speech isn't freedom from response. Some people have shitty opinions, and are too fragile to accept that people don't like them or their opinions.

And some people get upset when other people don't like AI and don't want it to do everything for them.

[–] Lemvi@lemmy.sdf.org 28 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

I don't think this is specific to lemmy. We generally like to hear people agree with us, and social media allows us to a) find spaces with like-minded people b) block people we don't like from interacting with us

We put ourselves into echo chambers where our assumptions and opinions are never challenged. You might talk about people with different opinions, but rarely to them. Live in that environment long enough, and you stop to question your convictions, and become increasingly incapable of articulating why you hold them, or to consider the perspective of 'the opponent'.

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 10 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (1 children)

The issue though, now, is it goes even further.

We now live in an time when the very idea of of our assumptions and opinions being challenged is considered assault or violence, and thus justifies the use of force to prevent that from happening. They think any acknowledgement of the humanity or legitimacy of their opponent is also something that should be met with violence.

I hear 20 somethings now talk like my boomer parents... in that anytime their views are challenged or questioned they resort to violence and threats. I've also had those threats directed at me in the past few years in a way I haven't encountered for most of my adult life until recently.

[–] a_gee_dizzle@lemmy.ca 8 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (1 children)

To your point, in the UK and Australia you can now literally get jail time for saying some pro-Palestinian slogans. So certainly there has a cultural and sometimes legal shift towards not tolerating opposing viewpoints and it is not healthy. That said this behaviour is not limited the right. The left is not very tolerant of opposing viewpoints either

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 9 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

Yeah, it's a product of identity politics. One of the premises of identity politics is that speech in and of itself, is harmful and evil, and that we must use force, including the power of the state, to stop harmful speech.

So now we have this world where we are making laws and punishing people based on subjective perceptions of 'harm'.

[–] jtrek@startrek.website 7 points 17 hours ago

Freedom of speech doesn't mean a guaranteed audience or platform.

You can write whatever you want. No one is required to read it. No one is required to host it. If they do read it, they can say whatever they want about it.

This is the fediverse. You can host your own instance and say whatever you want. No one else is required to federate with you.

If you post something and people say it's garbage, that's not your freedom of speech being quashed. You spoke. Now they are using their freedom of speech in response.

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