We are hurtling towards a societal incel pit and idk what can stop it. Good lord
this post was submitted on 09 Mar 2026
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I mean, it's fine to fall in love and confess it over the internet.
The problem is he apparently had never interacted with this person before? That's going to be weird on or off the internet.
So he’s never even talked to them online, but he’s in love with them? No, he’s in love with their online persona. That’s a parasocial relationship and that’s not healthy.
If you don't actually know someone in person, you can't actually be in love with them. You're just in love with that presentation of them.
He didn't love her, he loved her cosplay act.
That's not romantic love, that is a parasocial relationship. On the other end of that coin, a cautious person won't trust the vibes of someone coming at them from that direction. (Much like what happened here)
People can latch onto many things that give them those positive feelers, but it's critical to not drown in those affections. Hope your buddy bounces back from that, maybe they need to get out more.
That exact scenario has happened countless times without the internet being involved.
Though sometimes with the police
Is that what actually happened though or did he say that?
No. Love could be communicated at minimum as text message.
Do kids not talk to each other anymore? If true, I have a working theory why birthrates are dropping precipitously.
The true reason is that unwanted teenage pregnancy dropped. Until now, I suppose.
Was joke.