My doctor is holding out on me and not agreeing to give me blood tests. But just found out there is a new free clinic in my city run by some trans women that are part of a drug harm prevention group. Might be my only way to get affordable blood work so I'm hoping for the best. It's at the end of the month.
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Hey ! Haven't posted in some time here... last time it was about my fear of regretting transitioning and being sure of who I am. I'm pretty sure now, I have been on hormones for like 6-7months (since september), I love the changes to my body, my mood, my mind... But, I went out "as fem" to see if I could stomach being "full time" as they said.
And the looks. They're just so violent. Once the streets I pass are a bit crowded, and people feel authorized to be assholes, and I am not with my friends, the looks are... just wearing me down. I know I don't pass 100% but they make me feel like a monster. They are looks meant to pierce me from end to end and overspill the uneasiness they have unto me.
So here I am, having worked on my wardrobe, doing hours of voice training, having learned for hours how to do my make up... only for it to feel so so small, to be worth nothing. And I was wondering, honestly, does it get better... ? I feel kinda low at the moment :/
<3 sending love. Wishing you some better experiences.
So my paranoia of course likes to insist that everyone is secretly clocking me but pretending I pass just to fuck with me. I got a chance to test it last week when I met a friend-of-a-friend who doesn't know anything about me.
Me: Hey, wanna see a photo of me when I was younger?
FOF: Okay... woah, your hair's really short!
Me: Yeah, I, er, used to cut it like that...
FOF: Wow, you were quite the tomboy!
Friend: Less a tomboy, more like a boy.
FOF: (makes "WTF are you talking about" face) huh?? (looks again) ohhhhh!
And much laughter was had. So I guess I can safely continue to ignore the voice in my head.
Oh, and there was the time someone assumed I was non-binary but couldn't figure out which way. Serves me right for dressing masc that day I guess :3
been okay! thinking about getting a cute sun dress that's come out for spring, and maybe some sandals to go with it x3
I bought my first dress for my first wedding I've been invited to since coming out! So yeah it's going great.
planning on getting my eyebrows waxed soon!! i still love how my bangs look, but sometimes i just gotta brush them to the side, and my eyebrows are SUPER bushy and not very femme looking. likely gonna go with a friend :D
the week itself was not so eventful for me personally, other than i now have to get yet another primary care physician soon because my current one is graduating med school. do not be mistaken, i am very much happy for her! i've appreciated her willingness to learn about gender affirming care a whole ton. regardless, i live in a college town in a nation not so kind to people who work in medicine, and this is the reality.
oh i (and that friend) also got even more plushies, so yay!!!
It's been pretty awful for the most part to be honest. I've been getting random erections again so I think I need to up my E dose (I'm DIYing, injectable EEn monotherapy), but I'm kind of flying blind on that as my GP won't do bloods and I can't afford private tests right now so I'm just gonna have to up my dose and hope for the best.
I was meant to have a second date today and she flaked on me this morning with no real reason which just leads me to believe she got a better offer (we met through a dating app), plus a friend who has been supportive of me who I really want to support and be there for in return has left me on read for 3 days so I'm feeling pretty adrift and abandoned right now 💔
ugh, I hate erections - how long have you been on EEn, how frequently are you injecting, and how much? AFAIK it can take a minute for the blood E levels to rise and stay sustained on EEn, I had a much better time suppressing T immediately with estradiol valerate (EV) than what I've heard from girls on EEn, but overall I think EEn is probably a better time once you have stabilized levels.
I'm sorry your date flaked and your friend hasn't been available, but I wouldn't read too much into that - you don't know why the date fell through, it may have nothing to do with you and everything to do with their life. And sorta same for the friend.
Just hang in there and try not to take it personally, it usually gets better 💜
Yeah, I don't mind them too much when they're intentional (i.e. during sex/masturbation) but at any other time they're awful, I use gaffs to tuck and the result of an erection in a gaff is both dysphoric and painful 😔
I've been on EEn for 8 months, currently at a dose of 5.5mg every 7 days (I started at 5mg and upped it after the first 3 months) which felt like it was working decently well for T suppression up until the last couple of weeks, but my mood's been all over the place (and not in the inconvenient-but-affirming way of bursts of happy or sad tears I was getting for a while) on top of the physical symptoms.
And I know you're right about the date and my friend, the logical part of my brain agrees, but I'm a chronic overthinker when it comes to these things and it's tough to silence the anxiety/depression thoughts 😥
Thanks so much for the thoughtful response, I really appreciate it 💜
Very mixed, like most weeks. I am so incredibly privileged to be living in a place where I can get proper healthcare and queerness is at worst, tolerated.
However as trans folks around the world being constantly targeted, I try to use my privilege to help, it feels bailing water in a hurricane. And I know it’s only a matter of time before this viral hate makes it to my corner of the world.