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General trans community.
Rules:
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Follow all blahaj.zone rules
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All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.
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Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.
Resources:
Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.
Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en
StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/
Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/
[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map
[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination
[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/
[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/
[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/
[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org
*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on
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It's been pretty awful for the most part to be honest. I've been getting random erections again so I think I need to up my E dose (I'm DIYing, injectable EEn monotherapy), but I'm kind of flying blind on that as my GP won't do bloods and I can't afford private tests right now so I'm just gonna have to up my dose and hope for the best.
I was meant to have a second date today and she flaked on me this morning with no real reason which just leads me to believe she got a better offer (we met through a dating app), plus a friend who has been supportive of me who I really want to support and be there for in return has left me on read for 3 days so I'm feeling pretty adrift and abandoned right now 💔
ugh, I hate erections - how long have you been on EEn, how frequently are you injecting, and how much? AFAIK it can take a minute for the blood E levels to rise and stay sustained on EEn, I had a much better time suppressing T immediately with estradiol valerate (EV) than what I've heard from girls on EEn, but overall I think EEn is probably a better time once you have stabilized levels.
I'm sorry your date flaked and your friend hasn't been available, but I wouldn't read too much into that - you don't know why the date fell through, it may have nothing to do with you and everything to do with their life. And sorta same for the friend.
Just hang in there and try not to take it personally, it usually gets better 💜
Yeah, I don't mind them too much when they're intentional (i.e. during sex/masturbation) but at any other time they're awful, I use gaffs to tuck and the result of an erection in a gaff is both dysphoric and painful 😔
I've been on EEn for 8 months, currently at a dose of 5.5mg every 7 days (I started at 5mg and upped it after the first 3 months) which felt like it was working decently well for T suppression up until the last couple of weeks, but my mood's been all over the place (and not in the inconvenient-but-affirming way of bursts of happy or sad tears I was getting for a while) on top of the physical symptoms.
And I know you're right about the date and my friend, the logical part of my brain agrees, but I'm a chronic overthinker when it comes to these things and it's tough to silence the anxiety/depression thoughts 😥
Thanks so much for the thoughtful response, I really appreciate it 💜