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[–] ChristerMLB@piefed.social 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Serious answer: when american-style christian conservatives use the word "homosexuality" they're talking about gay sex. This is also why they think homosexuality is a choice.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

But they still wank over girl on girl action. Cos if it's being done to titillate a man they'll allow it

[–] ChristerMLB@piefed.social 1 points 2 days ago

Maybe, or maybe there's just a bit of a gulf between the public-facing proper morality and what happens in private in these kinds of communities.

[–] wraekscadu@vargar.org 1 points 3 days ago

They mean, "I don't agree with gay people doing gay stuff".

Why? It's either: "Because the God I worship said being gay is bad". Or "I don't, know, it's just wrong and if you try to make me think further by asking more questions, I'm going to make up reasons to justify my conclusion instead of having a good faith conversation."


It's sad that logical reasoning and argument formation isn't taught in schools much. This is why we see people endlessly land in bad faith conversations riddled with logical fallacies. It sucks so hard :(

[–] jeanofthedead@sh.itjust.works 3 points 6 days ago

I don’t believe in fire.

[–] JamesBoeing737MAX@sopuli.xyz -3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Well, homosexuals will no longer exist if the camps were to reopen, which sadly probably will. I wish all my minority friends the least painful death and the others can fuck themselves.

[–] YourMomsTrashman@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Are you living in a timeline where Jewish people no longer exist?

[–] draco_aeneus@mander.xyz 4 points 6 days ago (1 children)

There are (unfortunately) significantly fewer Jews than if the Holocaust never happened. The same cannot be said about gay people. Jewish people come from other Jewish people. Gay people come from straight people 'spontaneously'.

[–] mghackerlady@leminal.space 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

(there are converts to judaism, not that many in the grand scheme of things but they exist)

[–] draco_aeneus@mander.xyz 2 points 6 days ago

That's true, and I did consider them, but that's still driven primarily by living Jews still, I think.

[–] JamesBoeing737MAX@sopuli.xyz 1 points 6 days ago

Well, there are way less Jews in Germany. Apparently no one understands cynicism.

[–] SendMePhotos@lemmy.world 94 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Long time ago, group of friends and I were eating late night food at a diner. Talking about lots of stuff and one of them turned to the topic of homosexuality as one of our friends just came out.

Only other customer in the room was a lady reading a book. When we spoke of homosexuality she simply mumbled, "I don't believe in that." and we said, "... What?" she says, "I don't believe that homosexuality is a real thing."

Gay bro pipes up and says he's a living breathing example. They got into it for a bit and it was so long ago that I don't remember how it went. I think she left out of frustration.

Weird times.

[–] Cethin@lemmy.zip 6 points 6 days ago

Lol. What is it about diners? I was having breakfast with a group of friends, after a night of drinking, and we had a conversation about an April fools joke one of the people's sister pulled. It was something about needing an abortion, I don't remember what. This woman sitting near us with her kids says we need to stop talking because she doesn't want her kids to hear about it. Eventually she ends up leaving, after the staff spoke with her, and we thought it was over. Turns out, she went to her car and waited for us to leave, she drove very close to us at high speed in the parking lot to yell "losers" at us. It gave us the name of our group chat for years after.

[–] socsa@piefed.social 2 points 6 days ago

"Nah bro, you don't actually like dick, that's just a phase, trust me."

[–] Lumidaub@feddit.org 50 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Even just the notion of butting into a conversation with that, wtf. Must've felt it was her chance to proselytise.

[–] PhoenixDog@lemmy.world 21 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

The People who "don't believe in homosexuality" are usually the same type of entitled assholes to insert themselves into other people's conversations.

Excellent point

[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

As an aside, there is really something magical about late night diners. Something timeless and almost invigorating about how mundane and dreamlike those experiences always are.

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 63 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Yeah, me and my wife are still married. No amount of random bystander disagreement will change that.

[–] Remember_the_tooth@lemmy.world 26 points 1 week ago

Partnership is a very grassroots thing. It predates modern humans, and it will persist long after. An organization that fails to recognize self-defined partnerships is self defeating. I might as well argue that my own feet don't exist.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I disagree! You don't exist therefore are not married!

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[–] FreddiesLantern@leminal.space 50 points 1 week ago (4 children)

When the people who disagree with mountains turn out to be mountains themselves it becomes downright hilarious.

[–] lumettaria@sopuli.xyz 31 points 1 week ago (1 children)

This half assed analogy is cracking me up

[–] FreddiesLantern@leminal.space 9 points 1 week ago

Trying to watch my calories so it’s only half ones for a while.

[–] jaybone@lemmy.zip 10 points 1 week ago

These gay mountains are so gay.

That’s actually my personal theory on why they think it’s a choice. For them, it IS a conscious choice, because they’re gay and making an active choice to suppress it. They think everyone has gay urges, because they’re incapable of imagining a world where they aren’t their lived experience isn’t the default.

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[–] GalacticSushi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 37 points 1 week ago (4 children)

You think there's always been gay people? Even in ancient Greece? Sure, let's just pretend all those hairy daddy bears weren't wrestling each other for totally heterosexual reasons.

[–] rockerface@lemmy.cafe 18 points 1 week ago (1 children)

When everyone was gay... noone was

Hey conservatives, I’ve got an idea on how to get rid of all the homosexuals in modern society, now hear me out on this…

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[–] Zink@programming.dev 33 points 1 week ago (1 children)

My experience being born into religious conservative white america is that phrases like "I don't believe in" or "I don't agree with" are just the politically correct language and/or dog whistle for "I hate that shit but I need to act polite."

[–] InvalidName2@lemmy.zip 10 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I have (RCWA) family members who, in their words, "don't believe in Halloween". Halloween being a holiday celebrated in many countries and one that happens every year, which is all over the media, with products in nearly every store, and even shows up on most typical calendars in this country.

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[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 28 points 1 week ago (9 children)

One time, my dad, fully serious, said to me that homosexuality didn't exist in nature outside of humans.

It was like finding out that you have a below average penis.

My stomach dropped in shame when I was so starkly faced with the mental faculties of one of my biological guardians I had been raised by. Was I staring at my limit?

What about those other kids, whose parents are educated and empathetic and who will ask real probing questions and can answer them? Will my facilities slow to a crawl soon, to keep pace with my genetic fate?

Are these fears so average that I should bow my head in the river, afraid to even express them, lest I be confronted by the entire history of humanity?

Maybe biological nature isn't everything, maybe fate isn't real and change is truly in our hands, ready to be molded, potentially even into chaos.

"Better stupid than dead", huh? It's staring right back at me, blankly, waiting for me.

[–] hovercat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 week ago

Fortunately for you, while there's definitely some genetic component to it, it's definitely not the only factor by any means. I've known some very intelligent people who believe some very dumb shit.

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[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 25 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Christians (esp. fundies) really don't work with the same concepts as everyone else

for example, homosexuality is now known to be mostly a matter of biology (of course, a repressive environment might lead people to suppress, but I'm doubtful that is relevant to the underlying question of their innate sexual orientation, which remains unchanged)

but for science-denying Christians who are taught that homosexuality is "sin", they are mostly taught that sexuality is not anything innate or natural but entirely a matter of behavioral choices (similar to how shame about masturbation frames sexuality and sexual desire as wrong and a matter of self control and making "good choices").

So, in that context something like "I don't agree with homosexuality" really just means they see homosexual "acts" as wrong, and so they don't endorse people who indulge in those behaviors; they aren't really thinking about sexuality in the same way.

[–] sveltecider@lemmy.ca 8 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Hot take: I really don’t care if it’s a choice or biology, I’m fine with it either way.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

it really does matter, though - the fact that it's not a choice is an important fact in arguments supporting legislation banning conversion therapy, for example - if it were a choice, conversion therapy would at least be plausible for people who didn't want to be gay, for example. If it weren't a choice, legislation banning conversion therapy would have less justification as it would be a valid choice for some people to not be gay and to use therapy to change. Conversion therapy doesn't work because it's not a choice, and that makes it a dangerous and pseudo-scientific practice, which justifies banning it.

[–] FistingEnthusiast@lemmy.world 25 points 1 week ago (2 children)

People are stupid

Now, religious people are a special breed of stupid.

[–] OwOarchist@pawb.social 14 points 1 week ago (2 children)

They choose to believe in things they know aren't true, and they call it faith.

And that's how they think everyone else comes to their own conclusions about reality as well. They think we're taking the existence of homosexuality on faith, which is why they think they're making some kind of point when they say they don't believe in that.

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[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 9 points 1 week ago

I believe that for a person to have unshakeable faith in objective reality, even despite all of the scientific and philosophical evidence and logic against it, speaks to an unnaturally feeble state of mind which has been cultivated in our society by the rich and powerful as a means of control. Human beings are not naturally so willfully ignorant; it must be trained from a young age.

[–] HrabiaVulpes@europe.pub 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)

"If not for christian missionaries you would still be worshiping sun!" "Sun is real, bro..."

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[–] FreddiesLantern@leminal.space 10 points 1 week ago

Make mountains gay again.

(I’m loving this post/comment section too much)

[–] SaharaMaleikuhm@feddit.org 9 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I don't agree with the sun. That bitch can fuck right off.

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