Plus if you really regret not having children you can always become a foster parent/adopt.
On the other hand: what if you do have children and you regret that? Start killing?
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Fake your death, orphan your kids, why kill them. Plus, it has a benefit that you can disappear from your old life and start anew! Somewhere in Finland or Norway or Japan.
That's my answer everytime. Tbf I love children I just don't want to be a parent, but if some day I regret it I can adopt!
My family always say "oh it's not the same, you don't know where they came from"
MF my children would have more mental health issues than anyone out there. Also I have 2 dogs and 2 cats that I love more than anything and Idk where they came from either. If I can love pets I can love a child even more.
An adopted girl I knew would say "your parents were stuck with you, but my parents chose me!"
You don't know where they came from.
But you have a better idea of who they are than when you make new ones from scratch
Yup. I got the snip for a few reasons, but when we get more financially stable we plan on adopting/fostering.
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I never had kids, but being a school bus driver has made me regret not having kids. Being a school bus driver has also made me thrilled to the fucking core that I never had kids.
There's a H U G E difference between your kids and other people's kids.
As a bus driver, you're basically working in a penitentiary and coming to the conclusion everyone's a criminal. Well... Yeah...
Yeah, I don't really like other people's kids that much. I don't really like anyone quite the way I like my own kids either. But I don't besmirch anyone not having kids, I respect the decision. I don't want people having kids they don't want. I also know that I wanted kids, but after having them, and as they've grown, I realize I didn't quite understand it. But hey, this is life.
I would MUCH rather be unhappy that I didn't have kids than unhappy that I did.
Yep!!
There's nothing wrong with having kids. There's also nothing wrong with not having kids. Why are people so aggressive toward the other side?
because (IMHO) a lot of people that have kids either didn't time it right or didn't think it through, or it happened by accident.
and they are now wishing to get their freedom back.
kids (I'm sure) can be great and worth the return on investment.. but there's immense pressure on them to do well as a representation of the parents.
sucks.. but it do be that way.
I planned my kids and still can't wait to get some of my freedom back. Both can be true.
No amount of babysitting or exposition can truly show you show how relentless having kids is. Timing and planning will help alleviate that. But you are still one flu away from two weeks of hell. And that's when your kids are healthy.
Absolutely right. I was living in a party house before I met my wife, and at that time I would've laughed at the idea I'd have kids. Fast forward three and a half years, and I'm married with a kid, and eventually two, and now they're not babies anymore, or toddlers, and so while they can absolutely still be a burden, it also comes with an enormous amount of upside.
I've always firmly believed that without winter there is no summer, and so nothing is always the ideal situatiion you'd like it to be. And so yeah, winter comes and my wife and I get that household anxiety that there will be a stomach bug, but it is what it is. We cancel plans, we've missed thanksgiving and Christmas, but we've also had amazing times that wouldn't have been the same without them. The good and the bad, and the ugly, because I like spaghetti westerns even though my family thinks they're boring.
I think not having kids requires similar efforts of planning/thinking it through - just in a different way. Here's an example that really made me thing about it: My friends neighbor are a childless elderly couple. The wife has dementia of some sort. Things have rapidly escalated - and the husband is not able to care for her or make decisions rapidly enough to keep them both cared for. My friend regularly has to intervene or help (she does not want to). She is also childless and genuinely surprised at the amount of care an elderly couple needs from outside just with day to day stuff. Having kids does not guarantee you won't fall into this situation. But I don't think people realize how much support the elderly need - and that it is most often provided by family members. I understand in an ideal world we would care for the elderly differently, but this is our reality today. So not having kids comes with a price down the road.
I also think the number of parents who actually regret having kids is smaller than you think. But to be fair, parenting is tough. My kid once pooped in an actual fan. So there are moments that even I wish didn't happen.
In all cases, neither side is right or wrong. And I think we should have more empathy for folks - even if they chose a path we would not.
I know you said it, but counting on family support when you are elderly is such a gamble. I know so many people that moved away from family or their kids are too busy with their own lives to support. Many people get out into a home and visited a few times a year.
People overlook an obvious factor: having a kid physically changes your brain, and therefore how you perceive parenting. I know of lots of instances of this change happening anecdotally, someone radically changes their stance after an unplanned pregnancy.
Neither side is necessarily wrong, but choosing one or the other impacts who you are as a person so it's not as obvious as "I definitely [will/won't] regret it". So skip the social pressure and pro/anti natalist personal debates, but also don't hold too much blame against someone who struggles to grasp your mindset.
in 2016, there was a group in Spain that first looked longitudinally at moms who were recruited before becoming pregnant and then scanned for a second time a few months after the birth of an infant. What they found is going to sound like a bad joke, but it’s actually we think a good thing, which is the brain got smaller. So it lost some gray matter volume between that first preconception time point and the postpartum scan.
It's official folks, having kids makes you an idiot :D
I can buy this. I knew 100% I could raise a kid. I was fairly certainly I wanted children. We had my first kid, and I got more certain. Only as I had a second and they've grown older and I watch them develop and become people do I realize it was the right decision. I don't think you can know it's the right decision until it's done.
And the inverse (maybe not inverse) is true too, with people who knew they wanted to have kids, only to discover they were wrong.
Life's complicated for sure. That's it. I wanted to put a but, but there's no but. This is not a decision that has a clear right and wrong to it. It's a thing. There's 8 billion of us here, so it's not some special thing, even though it is.
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In all fairness that's an awful comparison and they really need to just have better comebacks
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I completely understand someone not wanting to have or not wanting to bring kids into this mess, but I also don’t think this is a gotcha.
Over the years, I've changed my take on this. So what if a woman regrets it. She's the only one affected. Her decision. Her choice. A man can decide at any age to procreate so he is not as affected. Wife/partner doesn't want kids, he can find a woman who does. Versus having child(ren) that aren't wanted or supported who regret their own lives and have parents who regret they were born. Lots of regret all around. As to the grandchild loss and grandparent regret, there are plenty of kids out there who like having surrogate grandparents. Go for the least regret possible.
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If I can't be a banker, I don't wanna live.
You must be a banker!
You just can't do both.
Road Not Taken and all that.
Not really good at biology but as a guy I sometimes think: if I dont want kids i should maybe still freeze some Sperm for later if I change my mind.
What about Women tho? Isnt it feasible for them to freeze some eggs or Idk?
Nah, I suggest you try the dirt bag method. Start by getting a couple of ladies pregnant under a fake name and then go to a different country and break all contact (even better if you can fake your own death). If you ever change your mind about being a dad then go look for your kids. This is a lot cheaper than freezing sperm. As for women, idk either.
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