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"there appears to be a 3 year gap in relationships here"
I was doing freelance fucks.
Just gotta make sure you don't mix up the one for your therapist and the one for your partner/friend/acquaintance. Or just use the same one, I'm not the boss of you!
Therapist? Far easier to talk to random strangers on the internet
Certainly cheaper/more easily available!
I would stop talking to someone who sent this immediately. If you've got so many people giving you attention then you don't need it from me.
I once matched with a person on OKCupid and she told me something like "hey you seem interesting, I am currently seeing a lot of people but I might reach out to you soon"
She put me on a fucking list.

Wouldn't even be opposed to getting a fat document someone took care in detailing about themselves, but look at that embed. Not even ten words after the header, and one of the lines is "laugh a lot." What else would you like to tell me about, your love of eating food sometimes? Maybe you partake in...having fun?
My pdf would NOT be one page 😭 I would yap for eternity about myself and my interests if someone lent an hear fr
Whats your favourite thing about yourself and what are your top 3 interests?
Hmm, well I think my favorite thing about myself is that I’m quick-witted. Situational comedy when I’m with friends or family tends to come pretty naturally to me, and I think choosing to not talk or quip in some situations has been a skill that’s taken more cognition.
My top 3 interests (as of lately):
- PCs, especially the Linux ecosystem and PC hardware/overclocking
- 3D printing/Modeling/Electronics
- Personal health, like I’m trying to learn more about nutrition, exercise and habits. It’s been tricky to find good, free resources on like weight training and exercise tbh. I have gotten back into Beat Saber, it’s a great option for exercise, but this time I don’t wanna injure myself from overuse or anything, so I’m treating it more like exercise.
So in between explaining while arch is best, you derail the conversation by interjecting puns?
My brother!
Uhhhh... I... uh... the... uhhhhhhhhhhhhhh... next question?
And where do you see yourself in 10 years?
What kind of salary are you expecting?
Are you a team player?
When in your life did you feel/were you the most lucky?
Tbh, my immediate reaction would be to say 2022, when I had a partner and a solid friend group who I’d go and do with. I certainly felt the most lucky back then, but I think I do look back at those times with rose-tinted glasses.
Actually the most lucky? Probably right now— I’m learning and adjusting to adult life in a way which I don’t think I had previously. I think that type of independence and freedom opens the door to self-actualization.
Also not to brag but I got a bomb-ass sugar cookie I’m yet to eat so maybe I’m riding the high of that!
What is one of the experiences with the friend group that had stuck with you?
Omg real
Yeah, but.... pdf?
That was yucky even before it became code for pedo'.
... it is code???
… it is code???
in the mouths of those using pdf where contextually makes more sense that they're saying pedophile, e.g. on media sites that censor or demonetise or shadowban for using the word pedophile, yes. this neologistical phonetical synonym is secret code enough to get past censors apparently.
I'm going to watch out for this but I've never heard it before, and .pdf is literally the only format that will look the same to everyone reading it so I'm gonna keep liking it. Nothing yucky about it.
Imposing how it should look, is yucky to those who want to be free to meet their need for accessibility adjustments, like for larger text, dyslexic fonts, anti-glare, etc.
I am sympathetic to this, however mostly I just want to send a resume for someone else to print, without the other person's computer rendering it like garbage.
People can get all kinds of PDF software, and I'm pretty sure you can zoom, extract text, change font, etc. Idk how software can do anti -glare?
Honestly I'm not sure what format I would use outside of .PDF for documents where I want formatting and layout preserved.
.docx - compatibility issues .doc - old fashioned .rtf - not enough options, and old fashioned .txt - good unless I need formatting .md - no guarantee their computer opens it correctly, and hard to edit, and I can't choose fonts