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[–] tamiya_tt02@lemmy.world 2 points 20 hours ago

Hey, kiddo. I'm really proud of you. Not only are you talented, you work hard too. I can see that, and it makes me so happy that you're doing your best, even when you don't feel your best. One step at a time, ok? How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time and don't choke.

Also, booty cheeks.

[–] higgsboson@piefed.social 6 points 1 day ago

I am a dad who won similar awards when I was a kid (drumline section leader, sax then bass in jazz band, etc.)

I wish I could be there in person to tell you how proud I am! I know first-hand that it takes a massive amount of determination and skill to get there.

No matter what else happens in life, you were a critical part of something very special. You can go through life knowing that you can do The Very Difficult Things and even be numbered among The Best at something if you decide it is worth the effort.

You already showed you dont actually need validation from us, though. Be damn proud of yourself, drummer woman. You have earned it.

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

good job kid. All that practice finally paid off, and I'm glad you got recognized for your dedication and self expression.

[–] Lushed_Lungfish@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 day ago

Absolutely smashing, girl!

[–] MantisToboggon@lemmy.world 71 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website 41 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Made me chuckle, I'm 38 now, teaching a lot of music to the next generation. <3

[–] MantisToboggon@lemmy.world 19 points 1 day ago

I tell my girls on the regular, no matter how big you get or how far you go you will Always be my baby.

[–] BruceLee@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I'm not a dad but that's a great achievement. You can be proud. I'm proud for you !

[–] Realspecialguy@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

A lady drummer? Thats like, the coolest kinda lady!

[–] sga@piefed.social 3 points 1 day ago

I remeber you asking before you started teaching (or am i thinking of your sister). Regardless, you did really great!! I am sorry for not being there, and hope you (and your students) keep winning and most importantly enjoying

[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 38 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Hey, pat yourself on the back! No-one reaches that level without talent and a lot of work. You put in the hours, and now everyone knows it.

[–] TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website 25 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I'm a piano player originally, but switched towards drums recently (1.5 years ago).

Thank you. I was so afraid about playing live drums, but I did it and hey, it worked out fine.

[–] burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de 7 points 1 day ago

Nice! Like so many other kids, I got forced onto the piano bench. Now I've taken up the cello and am having such a better time just playing for my own pleasure. Good on you for picking up a fun drumming hobby!

[–] papertowels@mander.xyz 5 points 1 day ago

Swapped 1.5 years ago and you're placing in nationwide competitions?? Must've had one hell of a solid foundation! Props for the hard work.

[–] Cruxifux@feddit.nl 24 points 1 day ago

Dude I would be so fucking proud of my daughter if she did something like this. I’m and old school metal head punk rocker guy and love playing instruments.

You did great kiddo. As an internet dad im so proud. And as a regular dude Im fucking impressed. You rock!!

[–] Nooodel@lemmy.world 28 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You did?

That is so incredible. All the dedication and love you put into this really show off what an amazing person you are. If you think that feels pretty good, remember this day in the future whenever you want to achieve something new. And how you got there, all on your own. There won't be much you cannot reach if you put your mind and heart in it. I'm proud of you ❤️

[–] TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website 13 points 1 day ago (3 children)

This means so much to me, but I still haven't overcome my permanent depression nor my eating disorder (future projects, I guess?)

Thank you.

[–] Nooodel@lemmy.world 2 points 21 hours ago

The most important step is always the next one

[–] Rhaedas@fedia.io 11 points 1 day ago

Since you're a great drummer, it's only fitting to say let Karen Carpenter be a both a role model and a warning. Be yourself, do not let others force you to be a certain way.

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[–] needthosepylons@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

You rock, girl!

[–] Jerry@feddit.online 24 points 1 day ago (2 children)

3rd place nationwide? OMG. That is incredible. That is really awesome!

Well, I'm proud of you. I truly am. What an awesome achievement. You have great talent. Music is a language that speaks to the soul without words. You have a superpower. Continue using it for the good of all.

Do you have any videos uploaded online?

[–] TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website 20 points 1 day ago (3 children)
[–] navigator@piefed.zip 9 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Nice ghost notes! What are your influences? Do you have any interest in prog music?

Edit: I forgot to mention, the nostalgia! lol. I remember Boiler being one of my favorite songs from Chocolate Starfish during high school.

John Otto, the band's drummer, is such a beast and grandmaster of ghost notes.

[–] TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website 11 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Mike Portnoy, defo anything Danny Carey plays. But I come mostly from Punk and Blues and Jazz music. <3

Holy shit that's good and tight.

As a producer, those snare ghost notes are addictive and you're hitting the groove and pace so well. It's easy to make it sound like that for studio recordings but rarely you hear it done live.

Your dad is missing out, lemme give you a big ol hug and tell you I'm so proud of you for coming this far ^^

[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 4 points 1 day ago

You are damned good! Congratulations.

I heard a long time ago when I was going through it that depression is anger turned onward, and that anger is often a mask for other emotions like powerlessness, grief, pain. A clinician told me if I can welcome anger as a teacher and friend, I would learn so much about myself. It was a long journey; and it was worth it.

I wish you all the best, and especially healing. I'm obviously not Dad, so I'll leave it at that, except to say you are about to develop some real emotional muscle. You go, girl!

[–] TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website 12 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

OMG, thank you!

EDIT: not a vid, but sound was recorded, I can upload it here as mp3.

[–] Jerry@feddit.online 5 points 1 day ago

I listened to the track. You're really great! I see why you won! Fantastic you! BTW, I have a lot of anti-tracking software so it may not have registered in the counts.

You mentioned depression. You and I then travel with the same evil companion. It's good that you mentioned it. It gets weaker in the light.

The reason to live is somewhere in the future. You can't see it coming because it's always around a corner; you come across it when you don't expect it, and it's never what you think it will be. But depression doesn't want you to find it. It's an evil SOB. The future will reveal why life is worth living. I know you probably don't believe me. But, it is there.

I've also known someone close who had an eating disorder. It can be dangerous. Use logic to control it. It's also a deceitful companion.

Anyway, you're doing great. You have great talent, and you achieved this because you are talented and a fighter! Fantastic job! I am proud of you!

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[–] SystemL@literature.cafe 6 points 1 day ago

Nice job kiddo. You deserved it.

[–] absentbird@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

I am so proud of you! All of that hard work paid off. Don't ever forget that you're a winner.

[–] kmartburrito@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago

I'm so proud of you!

Way to put in the hard work and countless hours of practice. Enjoy your weekend - work hard play hard 🤩

[–] mongooseofrevenge@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago

You were always my favorite.

[–] Kaput@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago

Bravo! Wanna watch the animal vs Buddy Holly drum battle with me? 🤔 Ng of it how about an animal costume for your next gig, that be awesome

[–] hateisreality@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Congratulations....I used to play, but didn't practice my Rudiments like I should have and wasted my talent..good on you for following your dream and even though it's hard sometimes, when you keep trying you will surprise yourself!

[–] Speculater@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago

Great work! All your long hours of practice are paying off!

[–] Chef@sh.itjust.works 11 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I’m really sorry I was never there for you. You didn’t deserve that. You’re an incredibly special and amazing person and I’ll always regret not being there for these moments.

I’m so proud of you and how you succeeded without my support.

I want you to know that I’m here for you now and can’t wait to celebrate your successes and support you through life’s speed bumps.

Love,

Dad

How cute is that? Thank you.

[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 4 points 1 day ago

You made me leak.

[–] hex123456@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago

Way to go champ!!

[–] dualistic@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

Wow, i am proud of you!

[–] NABDad@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Drumming is so ambidextrously amazing! I could never do it, but I really admire the hardest working member of the band!

What kind of music is your favorite?

[–] TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (5 children)

These days? Probably Jazz ^^

EDIT: Punk & Jazz. Punk is for relaxing on the kit, Jazz challenges me so hard. :D

[–] ElderReflections@fedia.io 4 points 1 day ago

Was listening to this earlier, the build to the percussion in the 2nd half really hit me Indigo Jam Unit - Raindrop

[–] NABDad@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

You are fantastic!

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[–] Assassassin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 day ago

LETS FUCKING GOOOOOO

[–] tired_n_bored@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

That's such an exceptional result, be proud of your accomplishment my dear. I'm so proud of you. Keep doing what you love!

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