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[–] TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website 20 points 1 day ago (3 children)
[–] navigator@piefed.zip 9 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Nice ghost notes! What are your influences? Do you have any interest in prog music?

Edit: I forgot to mention, the nostalgia! lol. I remember Boiler being one of my favorite songs from Chocolate Starfish during high school.

John Otto, the band's drummer, is such a beast and grandmaster of ghost notes.

[–] TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website 11 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Mike Portnoy, defo anything Danny Carey plays. But I come mostly from Punk and Blues and Jazz music. <3

Holy shit that's good and tight.

As a producer, those snare ghost notes are addictive and you're hitting the groove and pace so well. It's easy to make it sound like that for studio recordings but rarely you hear it done live.

Your dad is missing out, lemme give you a big ol hug and tell you I'm so proud of you for coming this far ^^

[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 4 points 1 day ago

You are damned good! Congratulations.

I heard a long time ago when I was going through it that depression is anger turned onward, and that anger is often a mask for other emotions like powerlessness, grief, pain. A clinician told me if I can welcome anger as a teacher and friend, I would learn so much about myself. It was a long journey; and it was worth it.

I wish you all the best, and especially healing. I'm obviously not Dad, so I'll leave it at that, except to say you are about to develop some real emotional muscle. You go, girl!