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Nowhere Else To Share

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I didn't know which community to post something in, and so here we are.

Please comment if you know a more appropriate community for a post.


Be nice. All instance rules apply.


Rules:

  • Be respectful. Everyone should feel welcome here.
  • No bigotry - including racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, or xenophobia.
  • No Ads / Spamming.
  • No pornography.

Règles :

  • Soyez respectueux. Tout le monde doit se sentir le bienvenu ici.
  • Pas de bigoterie - y compris le racisme, le sexisme, le capacitisme, l’homophobie, la transphobie ou la xénophobie.
  • Pas de publicités / Pas de spam.
  • Pas de pornographie.

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  • abusive admins/mods
  • mods being cults of personality
  • vibe bans with incorrect rule used with no appeal process
  • automod
  • auto bans for participation in other spaces

I came here in November of last year looking for an alternative to reddit, and in that time, this space has transformed to look more like reddit than I ever expected it to become.

I don't know what I expected, but it wasn't just reddit all over again with a smaller userbase.

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[–] allo@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 hours ago

then get your luigi hat on and take down the billionaires

[–] henfredemars@lemdro.id 23 points 13 hours ago

What communities are you using? I haven’t been running into these issues and I’ve been here for a couple of years.

However, there are a few notorious instances and communities that do just that.

[–] can@sh.itjust.works 3 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

You and I have had very different experiences. I don't mean to invalidate yours however.

There's some rogue admins and mods, sure, but I haven't come up against them much in over two years and it's not like I've been walking on eggshells.

Where have you experienced this the most? Certain instances or mods?

[–] calliope@retrolemmy.com 8 points 12 hours ago

I think the larger instances kind of end up being quite similar to Reddit. Same pithy comments, same inability to self-reflect, same weird self-assurance that they are in the majority, regardless of subject.

It takes a lot of curation but I think it’s possible to find the social media you want on Lemmy.

[–] Valmond@lemmy.world 5 points 12 hours ago

With the exception of .ml (if you haven't been banned there at least once, well are you even trying? /j ) I'm good IMO.

[–] homesweethomeMrL@lemmy.world 5 points 12 hours ago

I have a couple of banned-by-idiots stories but nothing like these, just regular stuff.

[–] Rentlar@lemmy.ca 2 points 12 hours ago

Well sorry this hasn't worked out. Between june 2023 to aug 2023 this site turned to be more like reddit in some ways and less of a niche site... in both good ways and bad.

If you want a forward path of action from here, maybe make a thread to brainstorm how it can be better. Perhaps define a space that fits your philosophy and see if there's a match with something existing.

See beehaw.org. They are disconnected from lemmy.world and their main rule is to be(e) nice. It's one rule, it's subjective to avoid rules lawyering, and fairly applied, you get some leeway with warnings if your behaviour is problematic.

Just remember that mods are unpaid volunteers like Reddit, so the ones dedicated enough to donate their time and energy to mod tend to be terminally online. They take a lot of abuse from people and that fatigue grows over time and with an increasing userbase.