I confuse "attractive" and "naked" on a regular basis. I frequently have to remind myself to consider if I am seeing an attractive person, or just a person who currently is not wearing many clothes.
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I, uh... think most people are pretty unattractive when they're naked.
And here I am with a diametrically opposite opinion.
It's 2: Intelligent and kind
It is confidence. It is always always always confidence. Close the thread there's your answer for everything.
But then you run into the dunning kruger effect. Way too many assholes and idiots with obscene amounts of it
Understanding and compassion. Kindness. I've been with enough women in my time to be able to definitively say that the HOTTEST woman in the universe yet a total bitch would not be able to hold a candle to a homely kind hearted gal.
Being hot and horny does it for me.
... according to Wikipedia, body symmetry
Other qualities tend to rely on frequency of interaction and are not instant
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The ability to not give a fuck about what others think about them, showing people close to them that they care about them and tries to help out anyway that they can, showing appreciation when someone does something for them.
I see these qualities in my (guy) friend which is why I had a crush on him. Also he kinda looks like Leon Kennedy sooo...👀
That is different for each person
The way care about and/or for
Glasses
happiness
Throwing themselves at me sexually. If I'm not going to have to make a lot of effort for it the person gets way more attractive to me, even if they're not someone I'd typically go for. Conversely I've lost interest in a lot of very attractive women when they made it clear they were playing hard to get or just weren't very sexual in general.
I believe the term is "ecstatic consent".
Having a good "look" or dressing well goes a long way for me. Not even just one particular style, so long as theyre owning it with confidence and flair.