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Edit/update (the original post is under a spoiler drop-down below for anyone curious): Thanks to multiple wonderful people, I no longer need help affording my medicine for now! I'm having difficulty thinking/communicating and am overwhelmed by the kind response, and am kind of speechless! Thank you all so much for your help and kindness. It means more to me than I could ever express!! You have no idea. My flabbers are thoroughly gasted. You're also helping me hold on to my tenuous grasp of my last shred of hope for humanity... Bless you all, you beautiful people; seriously. <3

This is now one less thing I have to stress about, and this and potentially being in less pain leaves me more mental bandwidth and ability to deal with it all...and that's very valuable. It's a big deal. I thank you all sincerely!!

I apologize massively for my late responses. I got some really bad news about other healthcare stuff and my pain spiked and all I could do was curl up in bed trying to cope. 😓

I am working on replying to comments as best I can, but will likely be very slow because of my health/cognitive/pain issues, brain fog, life stuff, etc. (I'm so sorry!! I hate that I'm not able to communicate like a normal person, especially when you've all been so nice to me.)

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Original title: This is my reluctant request for help, 'cause I'm in too much pain and I'm not okay Original post text: Hi, everyone. @remington@beehaw.org suggested I post here about my situation in this exchange from a while back. I hate to do it, and I'm sorry, but I'm desperate. I've tried and tried to figure it out on my own and have failed. It's hard to think and communicate because of how much pain I'm in and my health issues, so I apologize if this is badly written. Please let me know if I can clarify anything and I'll try my best!

I'm really struggling with chronic pain due to my genetic disorders, and I'm currently not able to afford my much-needed pain medicine, and I am not handling it well. (An understatement! I talk more about it in the linked post.) Usually a friend of mine covers it for me when I'm not able to, but they disappeared over a month ago (I am hoping they're just stressed but okay, they've done this before, although not for this long.)

@remington@beehaw.org suggested I make a post here sharing my CashApp and stuff. If anyone would be willing and able to help with the costs, that would be so appreciated, but no one has to! I'm sorry I'm even asking. I need $55, unfortunately, but any little bit helps and adds up. I hate asking for or taking people's help or money and feel like a jerk, but I feel like I don't have any other option.

My CashApp is [redacted], my PayPal email is [redacted], my Venmo is [redacted].

Kind comments would also be appreciated if anyone wants to 😭 'cause holy shit, I'm not okay. I'm also dealing with a lot more life stuff beyond this. Ugh.

Thank you for reading and thank you to @remington@beehaw.org for suggesting I post here and encouraging me to. <3

I've added a picture of my sweet cat, Ziggy, as thanks.

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[–] Powderhorn@beehaw.org 9 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

I hate asking for or taking people’s help or money and feel like a jerk, but I feel like I don’t have any other option.

I unfortunately can't help, as I've got my own financial issues, but I have asked for mutual aid on here (and received it!) and understand your reticence. It truly feels terrible to ask for help when shit falls apart.

But it's worth noting that as the economy continues to stratify and The Powers That Be always frame financial distress as a personal failing so as to deflect from the fact that rich fuckers did this to us, it simply isn't true. You can do everything right and still fall behind.

Once again, you're a victim of a system that doesn't want you to succeed, because every dollar you get doesn't go to a billionaire. You've done nothing wrong (I mean, I assume you don't have a dismembered body in a deep freeze); this is just the nature of society in 2025. It sucks, but it's not a shortcoming on your part.

In my experience, it shouldn't be hard to cobble together $55 from a few Beeple. Those with the means do care and want to help. I know platitudes don't move the needle, but from my offline interactions, mutual aid is becoming more and more necessary through intentional communities. So many people live right on the edge, and one surprise can be disastrous.

I wish you the best of luck.

[–] Zoop@beehaw.org 2 points 3 months ago

Thank you so much. Logically, I know you're right, and would say the same things to someone else in my situation asking for help, but my brain isn't very logical when it comes to how I treat and think of myself (bleh! I'm working on it.) Your comment helps. I appreciate you and I appreciate your comment a lot. Thank you.

I hope your situation improves and wish you the best of luck, as well! <3

[–] TehPers@beehaw.org 7 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (3 children)

You just need $55? ~~Venmo wants the last four of your phone number (can pm me on Discord).~~ (Not needed)

[–] Powderhorn@beehaw.org 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

This cracked me up. It's amazing how financial situations colour our views. Back in 2019, I was like "ooo ... it's only $55?" for some kitchen gadget I never ended up using, and now it's like, "how am I supposed to come up with that sort of money?" I should have put my kitchen-gadget money into bitcoin.

[–] TehPers@beehaw.org 4 points 3 months ago

Yeah it's wild, and I try to never forget how quickly situations can change. I've seen it happen in real time (and been through it growing up).

[–] theangriestbird@beehaw.org 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)

you can just skip that phone number confirmation. Just double check that you entered the username correctly and you should be good to go.

[–] TehPers@beehaw.org 5 points 3 months ago

Oh hey that worked! Thanks

[–] Zoop@beehaw.org 3 points 3 months ago

Thank you so very much! You have no idea how much it means to me. I wish I could better express it, but my brain is not cooperating with the whole communication thing (and I'm sorry, ugh!) I appreciate you and your kindness so much! I hope wonderful things come your way. <3

[–] bownage@beehaw.org 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Sent you some money, hope you can use it to feel better 🫂

[–] Zoop@beehaw.org 4 points 3 months ago

Thank you so much! I appreciate your kindness more than my uncooperative brain is letting me express. I hope good things come your way. <3 🫂

[–] remington@beehaw.org 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I'm very sorry to hear (again) about your situation and I'm hopeful that several Beeple here will help you out. Take care and, please, keep us informed over the following weeks.

[–] Zoop@beehaw.org 4 points 3 months ago

Thank you. <3 I appreciate it a lot. I really hope so, too. I don't know what to do otherwise. 😓

[–] BurgerBaron@piefed.social 5 points 3 months ago (2 children)

It's gonna sting with the maple bux conversion to USD but I could use some good karma going forward plus you seem very kind in comment history. Someone much nicer than me shouldn't suffer. Trump's tariffs will likely put me out of a career next year so I'm giving cosmic entities a very stern look hitting send here lol.

also

I want to spite AmidFuror as a bonus.

[–] Powderhorn@beehaw.org 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Totally off topic, but when I lived (briefly) in Victoria, USD was absurdly strong, like CAD1.60. And I already lost my job the day of Trump's inauguration. (these are some 25 years apart)

[–] BurgerBaron@piefed.social 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

1.38 currently 🤢. Hopefully you've recovered. I doubt I'll ever reach the same earnings ever again personally.

[–] Powderhorn@beehaw.org 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

My peak purchasing power was in 2003. It's only been downhill from there. I live in a trash-filled van and can't work a W-2 job because of Covid debt (having to put rent on a credit card) on account of garnishment.

[–] BurgerBaron@piefed.social 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Aww balls. This is one hell of a planet huh.

[–] Powderhorn@beehaw.org 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I at least have a lot of solar and batteries. It could be worse.

[–] BurgerBaron@piefed.social 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Certainly. I'll try to keep that in mind, thanks dude.

[–] Powderhorn@beehaw.org 4 points 3 months ago

We had a deep freeze here in 2021 where the power was out for a week. Highs were about 19F. I started plotting going off-grid once the internet was back up. I never want to experience that shit again.

[–] Zoop@beehaw.org 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Oh my goodness gracious, thank you so very much. You have no idea how much I appreciate it. I wish my brain was letting me express myself better and I'm sorry that it is not, but, seriously: thank you. This is a big weight off of my overburdened, achey shoulders.

I also appreciate you mentioning that I seem kind in my comment history... It means a lot when it's noticed (even though I sure don't do it for that!) because it feels like such a tiny drop in the ocean of evil and meanness that exists in the world and on the Internet. But I know how miserable and struggling I am, and I know others are, too, so I try to spread some bits of niceness when my broken brain and body let me, ya know? It probably doesn't mean much to them, but you never know. I dunno, hopefully you get what I'm trying to say - it's hard to think and communicate right now. (I also love your spite-niceness! Lol!! You're my kind of person.)

I hope so, so much good karma comes your way and that your career situation works out for the better. I'm sorry you're having to deal with our government's garbageness, too. (I myself just got news right after posting of more of my healthcare being taken away, effective immediately, because of him and his cronies' nonsense and hate, so I very much feel you there!!) You deserve lots of good karma and the wonderfulness you've put out in the world coming back your way tenfold, and I hope it does.

Sincerely: thank you, thank you, thank you. I genuinely appreciate you. <3 🫂

[–] theangriestbird@beehaw.org 4 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

i'm sorry you're having such a hard time! Life is already so hard without having chronic pain to deal with. I'm wishing you the best! you're among good folks over here, if you're on this server you're one of us

[–] Zoop@beehaw.org 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Thank you so much. Your kindness means a lot to me!! <3

[–] theangriestbird@beehaw.org 2 points 3 months ago

I can tell! Very happy we could come together to help, glad you have one less thing to be stressed about 🙏❤️