Facepalm

I almost get this,...

Who cares what my labels are, if I'm interested in you, that's that. Whatever you are, whatever I am, we're done. If we're having a good time we are winning.

On the other hand I acknowledge reality dictates that others want to pair with people they understand, and labels are labels because they are effective at helping people convey more complex ideas in efficient packages.

But then it comes full circle, if I label myself "no label" that's still a label that coveys more ideas in an efficient package.

Easier to just have a "N/A" or similar option

Sounds like someone is a little Fomosexual.

So, what term should they use?

I mean, you can use 'human' for race/ethnic group, or 'none' for religion, but there's no single word I know of for 'I refuse to state my orientation.'

Yes, I know it's not all that likely to come up in casual conversation, but now my curiosity is piqued.