Those who matter don’t mind, those who mind don’t matter
this post was submitted on 04 Feb 2024
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It’s never been an issue.
Do most people date by messaging random women on Facebook these days? Am I that out of touch?
Or is the implication that women have “posts pictures of their food online” as a requirement for considering dating someone? If so, who would want to date someone that shallow?
Maybe I’m just old, but I feel like I’m missing something here.
A point that came up in another discussion (elsewhere on Lemmy) is that it can be scarier for women to not find anything about a person that they're meeting for the first time (ex. From a dating app). So if they had to pick between someone who has a presence and someone who has no information, the presence would help.
This doesn't apply to people that you meet in person through work/school/activities or long term friendships
I love the irony of stalking people to make sure they’re not creepy.
stalking is only creep if a man does it.
Yes, I also saw a lot of discussion about this on Reddit's askmen. If you don't have a social media presence some women think it's creepy. It seems like the dystopia marches on. My 12 year old son thinks social media is poison and is unlikely to ever use it. I am concerned about how this will affect him in both dating and future employment.
Whats creepy is wanting/expecting to be able to see a detailed history of someone’s social interactions over the past decade or more. To me, that’s in the same category as someone putting a tracking device on the underside of my car and calling me creepy for removing it. How about maybe don’t be an insane stalker? But I’m from the days of “never use your real identity” being the first rule of the internet.
Realized many years ago that social media was making me more depressive so I simply stopped interacting with it. Tried dating apps as well and had numerous issues with their reliability and lack of honesty.
I've found a community of people online that I interact with and that has made me content with being single.
It would be nice to get back into the dating scene but I don't believe there is a way that makes me feel comfortable.
Pretty sure my dead dating life is unrelated to not having a social media presence.
I think having accounts I don't use is better than having nothing.
It hasn't. It was dead for many years, and i am finally not single without changing anything
Online trash never helped me