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I decided it would be better if we stayed friends, though I would still support and help him. Maybe if he starts liking my interests and becomes more mentally well, we could date again but for now IDK.

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[–] wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Given your recent posts?

No. Just go no contact. They're 24 years old. They're going to cry. Breakups usually hurt, and that's ok. It's ok to hurt sometimes.

He is not your responsibility to fix. He didn't respect you or your interests to begin with. If he's worth breaking up with it's worth just going no contact.

[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 5 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Thanks so much, he didn't even seem that upset when we broke up

[–] Mac@mander.xyz 4 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Don't concern yourself with whether or not a person seemed upset in the moment. People process things differently, especially if they're depressed.

[–] throwaway789@lemmings.world 2 points 2 hours ago

Thank you, I get it

[–] SpikesOtherDog@ani.social 10 points 21 hours ago

Clean break. It's best for everyone. You already know what you need. Putting conditions here will not help him get well.

[–] LuxSpark@lemmy.cafe 7 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Nah, just dump him and be done with it. You’re not responsible for him and he’s not going to change.

[–] N0t_5ure@lemmy.world 4 points 22 hours ago
[–] lilcutie24@sh.itjust.works 3 points 22 hours ago

You got this, dude. It’s probably for the best

[–] Proprietary_Blend@lemmy.world 2 points 21 hours ago

Lol. I'm glad you decided that. I'm for he'll fall right in line.

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