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I've got no earthly clue on who of your very wholesome community read my previous post here, but anyways, here's some amazing news:

Yes, I agreed to be a drum teacher substitute for the one teacher who unfortunately passed away recently due to old age.

Why did I hesitate so much? Because I'm transgender, it would mean that some peeps realising I grew up in that small town area, but I don't give two shits anymore. My boyfriend, he's transgender as well, and we share a deep love for music.

Also fighting with my gauntlets on, I got all my wishes cared for. There's an open door policy with me. The door is never closed and there will always be at least two parents present. I won't have to deal with any accusations from anyone.

All I want to do is teaching drums - because I'm sort of good at it. I love music!

This video recently warmed up my heart - I want to be a cool teacher (and the teacher was the English teacher, not the music teacher, lol.)

youtube.com/watch?v=-hNci03mKAE

For myself - I aspire to bring along this great message from a band I really love:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZwjsbFf-l2s (Lyrics) https://genius.com/Project-pitchfork-conjure-lyrics

Can I hit the drums hard to any song? Yes. :)

Do I want any child to be able to express themselves? Oh heck yes.

Any feedback welcome, and thank you again, all of you lovely Dads for coping with my original post!

I am not starting to teach drums until August, because it's just too warm over here with the weather at the moment, but come August, let's bang the hell out of those drum kits! ^^

Everybody feel hugged here!

Yours MJ

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[–] greengnu@slrpnk.net 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Just focus on being your honest, authentic self.

No one trying to be cool, is cool.

The cool teacher is the one who authentically loves to teach and you'll only discover that if you find that you love teaching.

Also, trust me; you'll want to teach Queen. It is a classic for a reason.

-Love Dad

PS, call your mother more. She worries.

[–] TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Queen is such a great band, actually my first CD I ever bought as a child was "A kind of magic". :)

Unfortunately, I can't call my mother, she's a religious nutcase who still can't get over the fact that one of their children is LGBT... :(

I hope the kids are getting a kick out of my drumming, I've learnt so much from my dear late friend Wayne, who was a multi-instrumentalist, pretty much wrote all of his records himself. I miss him every day. Back when I was a little child, I snuck out from home, took a train about 150 km away, just to see his band performing live. He was sort of bamboozled by the fact that there was a little unattended child screaming their lungs out front row. Pulled me up on stage to be "safe" and yeah, that's how we became friends back in the day. We stayed friends until he passed away 11 years ago and I'm still not over it. I miss him dearly, every single day. He would've thought it's insane that I picked up drumming after my massive hearing loss on stage. Yeah, I can still drum and I'm kind of good at it. ^^

But enough with the sob story, let's hear him and his live band! throws drum sticks up the air

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3qwznOOH28c

[–] greengnu@slrpnk.net 3 points 1 day ago

Wrong Mom.

Remember, not everyone is born to the parents that deserve them and unfortunately I am sorry I made that mistake. Your bio-mom choosing to be a religious nutcase was why I left her. You deserved better and that is why I married your actual mom (although she wishes you stopped calling her Melissa and start calling her Mom) and she does care about you; even if you think she puts too much sugar in her cookies.

much love,

-Dad