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[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 17 points 1 year ago (3 children)

They pour the milk before the cereal.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 10 points 1 year ago

I said red flag, not sign of a psychopath

[–] GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Damn. Am I excused if i have only so much milk left and do it to not end up with dry ass cornflakes?

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 1 points 1 year ago

Then and only then. But it should pain you to do it.

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

No, add small amounts of water to stretch it like a normal person.

[–] RedAggroBest@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

I'd rather die

[–] Zero22xx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Red Flags (if I don't blatantly show disgust, I'll probably ghost you after observing this stuff):

  • Littering
  • Treating animals like objects
  • Treating staff in restaurants and shops etc. like trash
  • Being into manosphere shit or treating any podcaster / influencer / asshat with a microphone like they're a guru
  • Interest in conspiracy theories and/or 'free speech' aka actions without consequences
  • Crying about wokeness or women or queer people

Amber Flags (I'm a bit put off but I don't want to judge a book by its cover so I'll get to know you first):

  • Subscribing to a religion
  • Having no neck, a red face, short / no hair, tribal tattoos and walking like you've got an invisible water bottle under each arm
  • Being a constant 'positivity' person

Edit: I feel like that's a lot. Maybe I just hate everyone lol. Maybe I'm the red flag.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Conspiracy theories is a good one, it can be a sign of serious MH conditions. Some theories border on clinical paranoia

[–] Zero22xx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah and sadly the conspiracy theory scene seems to be completely taken over by bad actors with right wing agendas. That prey on these people who actually need help, rather than to be fed stories about George Soros and the deep state and microchips in vaccines etc.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 2 points 1 year ago

Yep it's really scary.

[–] shittydwarf@sh.itjust.works 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 17 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You mean the first things to ask a new acquaintance aren't the names of their childhood best friend, first pet, and maternal grandfather?

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 13 points 1 year ago

If you send me money I will explain why

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

An adult that often doesn't accept when they're wrong, glosses over it or shifts the blame. Yes, it's part of growing up but past a certain age it's a terrible sign in someone.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 3 points 1 year ago

Such person is unfit for marriage or friendship

That's not a red flag that's a deal breaker.

[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 11 points 1 year ago

Unnecessary aggression or assholery.

[–] essell@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Mocks others, gets angry at jokes about them.

[–] TexMexBazooka@lemm.ee 8 points 1 year ago

Being religious.

It’s kinda sad to put it that way, but I’ve found almost universally that devoutly religious people are borderline incapable of actual critical thought

[–] gjoel@programming.dev 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Fatal, depending on point and depth of penetration.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 3 points 1 year ago

Good one dad@

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 2 points 1 year ago

I don't specifically have any. I just trust my feelings and am open and honest as possible.

[–] Wahots@pawb.social 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Their bathroom is destroyed. Usually a bad sign.

A green flag is seeing a stuffed animal or two in their bed.

[–] RedAggroBest@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Hard disagree on that green flag. In my experience is not an indicator. Both the worst people and the love of my life have had stuffed animals on the bed.

[–] Sas@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

Does it count if my stuffed animals are in the living room?

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

They accept a lack of evidence as natural in vetting someone for their supposed wrongfulness.

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 1 points 1 year ago

They don't listen to music at home.