3 days and 3 months between intentional same person physical meet-ups, quarterly visits is just enough without being too much.
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This also applies to people over 40.
Edit 3: Thanks for downvoting. I see the problem. The joke is just written poorly. Here is a better version:
Friend: wanna hang out tomorrow?
Me: I hung out yesterday. Please wait the three day recovery period to submit another hang out request.
Social anxiety =/= introverted
Edit: If this is not social anxiety, it still isn't introversion.
"I actually performed an activity yesterday." What healthy introvert would claim a non-descript, mundane activity would put them out of interacting with anyone for days?
Edit 2: Electric Boogaloo: If you downvoted, please seek therapy. You are not healthy. Life is easier than your mind is making it.
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This rings true for just being introverted. If I recently met someone, I'll often just straight up not be in the mood for company for a few days after.
I'll say something along these lines, though maybe not mention why or even that I don't want to see anyone, instead just suggest a time further into the future without elaborating.
You are being downvoted because you are basically saying that if you relate to the joke, there's something wrong with you and you need help.
That is incorrect, and kinda offensive. You made a lot of people feel like you think they are fucked in the head.
What healthy introvert would claim a non-descript activity would put them out of interacting with anyone for days?
It doesn't. I don't have a panic attack if someone walks up to me and starts a conversarion, or have trouble interacting with people for work.
The joke doesn't have the person hyperventilating, simply turning someone down in a humorous paraphrased way, for a reason that is quite common. "I just socialized, not in the mood for more."
Learning to turn down requests to socialize in order to ensure you even get any alone time is about as relatable as it gets for an introvert.
If I just spent all weekend hanging out with a friend playing video games, and another friend then contacts me during the week to ask about the next weekend, I'm likely to turn them down because I want to have the following weekend for myself.
You think the joke is about anxiety, as if the writer thinks in-between meeting people "introverts" suffer some kind of break-down they need to overcome, which you acknowledge they don't. But the joke matches just as well with the way healthy introverts learn to manage how much time they spend around people, vs. alone.
You are being downvoted because you are basically saying that if you relate to the joke, there’s something wrong with you and you need help.
That is incorrect, and kinda offensive. You made a lot of people feel like you think they are fucked in the head.
Lets review.
The joke has the premise that an introvert did an activity yesterday. Let go with a mundane activity: doing the dishes.
The punchline is that because the introvert did an activity (even a non-social activity), they are now prevented from catching up with a friend for several days.
I assume that this is a dysfunctional person. But you're telling me that this is okay, and not dysfunctional.
Wow.
Holy shit you missed the joke.
The use of the word "activity" here is obviously in reference to socializing, as its directly used in response to "do you want to hang out" to say "already did that with someone/you recently".
It's not referring to any random potential task a person might engage in. Is english not your first language? How the hell did you get to the interpretation that "activity" here refers to doing anything?!
So, again, who the hell says "activity" instead of "already hung out with someone"?
Is the part of the joke that the person is dysfunctional in turning people down? Wouldn't a healthy introvert turn someone down in an appropriate manner?
A well regulated person could say something like:
“already did that with someone/you recently”. I'll catch up with you another time.
Again, the weird paraphrasing, is why it's funny. No-one is actually doing it with those exact words except to be funny.
It's like asking someonen to to hang out by saying "could thine be compelled to spend a night in mine company, perhaps during the consumption of sustenance?"
Paraphrasing is the act of saying something with different words. Using unusual, inaccurate, hyperbolic or too many words is a common way to be funny.
I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that you're not stupid or trying to troll.
Introverts' social batteries recharge when alone (generalising).
The joke is that they're in the cool-down period.
It really isn't very complicated.
If you still don't get it and are an extrovert, imagine how you'd feel when forced to be alone (by your friends, of all people) - which is a mirror of forcing the opposite to socialise.
I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt that you’re not stupid
I wouldn't put that past me.
I understand the cool down period.
And no, the joke isn't written poorly, the hyperbolic paraphrasing IS THE WHOLE JOKE.
600 upvoters and counting got it just fine.
600 upvoters and counting got it just fine.
Good for them. Twist the "you're an idiot" knife a bit more, there's plenty of space in the small of my back.
I can't tell if you're serious, but in case you are, this is a joke.
Yes, it is a joke, and it doesn't land because it assumes "this is what introverts do, haha, isn't it funny? Introverts are so quirky".
I'm claiming that the premise of the joke is faulty.
Big Bang Theory comedy
Exactly. "Oh, aren't these nerds just so inappropriate? Haha, laugh at them being actually broken while we frame it as normal. canned laugh track"