Oh, so many things I can say in response. I will try to make it brief, though

Yes but so what?

So, for example, tons of people think themselves into depression and suicide because of some bullshit morals they have come to value more than anything else. I would rather have merciless killers to deal with, but not this kind of suffering going on around

You can’t have society if people go around destroying that society

Oh, but we do. Show me a country with empty prisons (preferably without prison-as-punishment laws even)

Edit: as an example of society without morals, if I remember correctly Gautama has spent some time with his disciples just hanging around. For those who do not know, buddhism does not care about morals in the common sense, and yet whenever you get a master+disciples group, that is a certain kind of society, very much capable to function

You make rules and enforce them to stop that destruction. Thats morality in a nutshell.

Which is plain declaring "I have failed". Failed in building a sustainable society. Failed in producing people capable of living in a sensible way. Failed to even restrict those who I failed to mold into something not that kind of destructive. I write "I" here, because in the end, if we look back in time, for every damn "moral code rule" that got spread, taught and enforced we will track that one idiot who enabled all this bullshit

This has been going on so long that it’s hard wired into most of us.

True. And because it got wired that deep we have enormous amount of suffering, because life cares not about "right" or "wrong"

For the psychopaths that don’t have that hardwire, we have places to put them. I.e. prisons and boardrooms.

Surprise: it is possible to live without any moral conditioning and still not fall into destructive behaviour. And also, we continue to revere people who have done things far from "morally right way". (Jesus, Krishna, Gautama to name a few most recognizable names). Today every single one of them would have ended up in a prison or mental hospital, which also speaks something about what morality actually is

No, I don't expect there to be any ready label for this. In a nutshell:

• humans are as much part of life on this planet as everything else. the "killing is wrong" kind of maxims is just plain bullshit, just go watch how other forms of life take care of their sustenance
• moral dilemmas show by their existence that pretty much any widespread "morally right" way to behave has its limits, yet those limits are somehow "omitted" from most sources that are supposed to teach people what is good and what is bad

also, "good" and "bad" do not actually exist: you can vaporise whole Earth and rest of the universe won't even notice

• still there is a vivid difference between a kind soul attending to a garden a feeding stray cats and dogs who happen to come by and an idiot torturing kittens in front of their mother just for fun, even seeing these situations produces very different experiences. Substitute humans here with animals and appropriate behaviour, the difference will still stand. So there is some kind of "this is in line with how all life longs to be", "that is not how mature and balanced living creatures operate", but I have no clue even what level to look at to find that difference