I’ve noticed that working with other women in an office can be weirdly difficult sometimes. Like, why is there so much tension? I’ve had way smoother work relationships with male coworkers, and I’m just trying to understand what’s going on.
Some stuff I’ve noticed:
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Jealousy – It’s like there’s always some silent competition over looks, attention, or even job performance.
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Competition – Instead of building each other up, it feels like a “who’s better than who” vibe—who looks best today, who’s boss’s favorite, who’s getting ahead faster.
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Age stuff – Older women sometimes act territorial, and younger women can be kinda cliquey. There’s not always a sense of mentorship or support—more like a power struggle.
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Attractiveness – If someone is considered really attractive, it causes all kinds of awkward vibes—sometimes subtle shade, sometimes straight-up coldness.
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Lack of support – I always thought women would have each other’s backs more, but it can feel like everyone’s just out for themselves.
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Passive-aggressive behavior – Instead of just talking things out, people gossip, throw shade, or give the cold shoulder. Super draining.
I’ve worked with some great women too, don’t get me wrong. But overall, there seems to be this weird undercurrent of competition and tension that I don’t really see with guys at work. Is it insecurity? Society conditioning us to compete instead of collaborate? Just curious if anyone else has noticed this or experienced something similar.
Let’s talk about it.