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Inspired by this post about Vampire The Masquerade

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[–] shaggyb@lemmy.world 14 points 1 week ago (3 children)

It's your responsibility to learn, not their responsibility to teach.

[–] Fjdybank@lemmy.ca 11 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

It's not their responsibility to teach but it's also not my responsibility to keep abreast of all social developments. It's inappropriate to gatekeep due to someone's naive ignorance.

Picture this. Sitting at a table game and someone drops a term or phrase that I don't recognise. Am I going to run to the toilet and google that term? Or am I just gonna say 'yo, what's that mean?"

[–] chetradley@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

There's a world of difference between hearing a term you're not familiar with and saying something like, "I've never heard that before, would you mind telling me what it means?" and learning about someone's marginalization and asking them a bunch of questions about it. I'm guessing this rule is targeting the latter.

Personally, if I meet someone who is marginalized, I avoid talking about their marginalization unless they bring it up and are clearly interested in talking about it. If they don't want to be defined by it or be asked a bunch of questions about it, then that's their right.

[–] Fjdybank@lemmy.ca 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

How on earth did you stumble across a comment that is 5 days old?

No objection with your framing. In fact, I tend to agree. My disagreement was the narrow / binary lens applied by the previous commentor. Their perspective ('your responsibility to learn') is/was an extremely dismissive approach.

[–] chetradley@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago

How on earth did you stumble across a comment that is 5 days old?

I'm only subscribed to like three communities so I see a lot of the same posts when I sort by subscribed.

We both agree that it's not all or nothing. It's unreasonable to say that asking a good faith question is always bad, just like it's unreasonable to demand someone answer questions about their marginalization. I was just pitching in my thoughts as to where the line is.

[–] shaggyb@lemmy.world -5 points 1 week ago

Hmm, yeah.

This shit that you're doing, right here? Nobody wants to deal with that.

[–] Atlas48@ttrpg.network 4 points 1 week ago (2 children)

also, found this from a tumblr post

My problem with “it’s not my job to educate you!” is that if you’re an activist then yes, it is your job, that’s part of what activism is. If you call yourself an activist but in the next breath refuse to offer education to those who are able to listen, your activism is performative/disingenuous at best and actively harmful at worst. Telling people to “google it” it not helpful when google has become increasingly unusable and bogged down with advertisements and unusable results - not to mention, not everyone can be expected to tell the difference between accurate sources and, say, dogwhistle-y propaganda messages, especially if they are new to leftism. You could be doing more to push them towards the right than to help them understand leftism, all because of “purity politics” or clique behaviors or superiority complexes or whatever it is that’s causing all these people to behave this way.

[–] KingOfTheCouch@lemmy.ca 6 points 1 week ago

Not everyone is an activist though. And even those that are, they need down time sometimes. I get it's tough for those on the spectrum to understand, but in this context, let people at the table just play the fucking game.

[–] shaggyb@lemmy.world 0 points 1 week ago

Yeah I'm not reading all that. Google it.

[–] Atlas48@ttrpg.network 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] shaggyb@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

We're talking about a fucking game, not an undergraduate ethics class.