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Resources:

Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.

Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/

The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en

StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/

Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/

[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map

[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination

[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/

[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/

[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/

[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org

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How do you come out to people? (piefed.blahaj.zone)

submitted 5 days ago by compostgoblin@piefed.blahaj.zone to c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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I’m getting more confident in myself and starting to come out to more people, but I feel like I don’t know how to? It always feels awkward.

Obviously for some people it might need to be more of a conversation, but for friends that I know will be supportive, does it need to be anything more than a text saying “hey, fyi, I’m trans. This is my new name and pronouns”?

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[–] tama@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 days ago

I first started with people I felt safe enough around, in this case it was actually within my work environment because I wanted to establish a safety network there as I did it.

Find a moment, get the persons attention, “hey can I share something with you?” And you have a chance to take some breaths and stabilize while they change their attention. No sense turning back, but you could, though throwing myself in the deeper end like this has been working. It’s easier to steel one’s resolve when facing it for real versus just living it out in your mind.

“Sooo I’m trans, I go by , I’m kinda new at this. “

For many people I had an added comment of like “I really admire in you” etc and it puts this into a share realm for them. I’ve tied them to me with something like that and it kinda opened all the conversations.

It helps that I did this working in an education environment so literally everyone is educated adults. I did select people in small waves and did it bit by bit and it kept getting easier to speak out loud, share, open up and start actually living….

Didn’t take long from there to find and feel support, then take the plunge fully.

Good luck anyone and everyone.