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I asked a question on a forum about why a command wasn't working. They said I didn't have an interpreter installed on my computer and were making fun of me. I showed them that I had one installed and that wasn't the problem, but they continued to talk sarcastically to me without explaining anything. Only one of them suggested the cause of the problem, and he was right, so I thanked him. Then another guy said that if I couldn't figure it out myself, I should do something else and that he was tired of people like me. After that, I deleted my question, and now I'm not sure. And I don't think I want to ask for help ever again

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[–] HazardousBanjo@lemmy.world 42 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Unfortunately there's a lot of pretentious and impatient assholes in this field.

That being said, IRL, I've had coworkers that are assholes, and I've had coworkers that have been the most amazing people. Just depends on who's on your team and who you have to interact with.

[–] natecox@programming.dev 10 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I’ll take it a step further and say that most of the people I’ve worked with have been amazing. Really just some very enjoyable people to be around.

Something about the field though seems to really attract the super assholes and they’re so assholish that they color the perception of the whole field.

It’s really unfortunate how a very loud, very obnoxious minority can have such an outsized impact.

[–] pebbles@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 day ago

I agree. I had one super asshole on my team a while back and it was hell. I dreaded every meeting. Once he left I realized how much I enjoy everyone else on my team. Lot of really great folks.

[–] darklamer@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago

Something about the field though seems to really attract the super assholes and they’re so assholish that they color the perception of the whole field.

I'm not so sure about that, when my friends who work in finance tell me about the people they work with their stories often make me think that I've been very lucky to end up in a field like software where people in general are so nice, helpful and cooperative.

It all depends on what one compares with, I guess.

[–] IronBird@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

alot of questions are of the "i have gone out of my way to avoid reading/searching any documentation" variety, i imagine those get annoying pretty quick