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Women and the folk who don't categorize themselves will never understand the deep masculane urge of self destruction. Of going down in a "blaze of glory" even if you're ultimately wrong.
The stereotype of masculinity was always a meme that drove men to destruction. The tribal warriors and knights of ye olde times idealized this type of crap too. It's been a part of humanity ever since writing was invented, probably longer. It's a strange part of being human.
The Walter White imperative.
why is this such a perfect explaination...
the refusal of the friends money, the "buisness" as a last resort, trying to avoid medical care to go out with a bang instead of with a whimper, the emotional segregation.... wow. it's not even what the show is mainly about but you're perfectly right
i've never understood this sort of masculinity, but i also have people who need me to be alive to continue living, and i assume that changes the math (transmasc, since i figure people will wonder, and i'm fine with this being the one thing where i'm not a real man lol)
It’s super common with young men, those who don’t have someone to “live for” but plenty of people to “die for”. No dependents, but lots of people they depend upon.
The greatest sin a man can do, in many societies, is to be an immediate burden, to take in more resources than they provide. To be a momentary net drain in material terms. Of course the pressure completely ignores emotional impact ether positive or negative, and generally discredits the material value of traditionally “feminine” work.
That’s kind of the core of a lot of misogyny and patriarchy, emotions and care are not the responsibility of men, their only responsibility is material. How others might feel when they are gone doesn’t matter, the chance to benefit them by dying, even if slim, trumps any emotional impact of them not being around, or any potential long term material benefit of them still being around.
Can you explain your last paragraph a bit?
It's because, so long as we serve nature, we aren't really people. We are expendable warrior drones, and women only have some value, because they are drone factories. Meanwhile, all we are doing is propagating some non-sentient strand of code, that is our objective.
But it does not have to be this way, this was a choice by someone powerful, to keep us animals.
That's one of many reasons I do not respect structures of power. Who says what is right and what is wrong. Not people who say they have the authority do do so, that's for sure. Lables like "masculine" or "functioning" are just lables made up by people to categorize and dehumanize others. Everybody's a person, and everybody has the right to do with their life what they want. But most people don't see that and blindly follow a path that was laid out for them. Is it "masculine" to fight and die in a war you have no stake in? Or is it stupid? Is it "masculine" to want to protect your loved ones? Or is it just human nature?
This is a deep topic, I could literally write several pages about it, but I'll spare you my poor attempts at philosphy. Unless that's what you're into.
I had plenty of it, and while I really love these topics, I am forced to ration my time.
In other words, TL;DR or I'm not reading.
Time is an illusion. But I understand, people have jobs and families.
Not related to anything: I think this is the peak of my character arc. I've been visited by an Angel, I insulted a Pig, and I argued philosophy with the World's Dumbest Man. I'm pretty sure this is how myths are made.
And if you do find some time to argue philosophy (and bullshit topics in general), please check out https://lemmy.world/c/Hermes_Collective. Judging by your displayed name and what I've seen on your profile, you'd feel right at home.
I know, shameless plug, sorry. Just check it out if you find time. Hope it's not against TOS, because I'm too lazy to check rn. Cheers! :)
I need what you are on!
I don't think they make sleep depravation in pill form.
Although...
Wait, is this a serious inquiry? Because I could give you an extensive list of mind-expanding substances I allegedly used in the past. I could even tell you a purely theoretical method of acquiring each of them, as well as the effects they have.
And just so we're clear, I am not offering to sell you non-taxable goods via the internet. It's a terrible business strategy.
You can send me a private message if you're interested in exchanging knowledge/information. I will tell you what you want to know, but in exchange I will expect the same.
It would be interesting, but I also don't need the legal trouble of something I'm not actually buying.
If you had something like ISRIB on the other hand...
Read my crusty tobacco-infused lips "I am not trying to sell you anything." I literally said so. And even if I did, I'm not a biochemist, just friends with a few of them. It would be easier for me (and probably for you too) to get the extract from a human pineal gland than ISRIB.
Have you tried therapy? I've heard the placebo effect is all the rage nowdays.
And by the way, you can't get into legal trouble by just discussing drugs. I could tell you how to build a bomb, and neither of us would be in legal trouble. There might be some questions, yes, some authorities knocking on some doors, but knowledge is still a free, unregulated resource (if you know where to look (kind of like mining for gold in your backyard)).
And by the by the way, supressing the stress response is not mind-expanding, it's synthetic coping. While you're at it, why don't you just go ahead and turn off other biological responses. Just turn off all of them, why not, become the perfect worker, get exploited at the cost of your human experience. Great deal. No offense, this was meant to be a hyperbolic joke. (apparently I need to specify to be understood). Not the coping part though, that's just my unfiltered opinion.