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Because it's unnecessarily inflammatory. The "bear or men" thing is apparently interpreted completely differently by at least some men and women and instead of listening to each other it just ends up as hate for each other. Why would you want to piss of the men that are on your side?
... If this question pisses you off, maybe you're not as on the side of women as you think you are.
They're not asking if people would feel more safe with a bear or you, they're asking about a completely random, unknown man.
I'm sure you are one of the good ones, I'm sure the majority of people on this thread are, but it's not about that, it's about the unknown.
You shouldn't be pissed off at women for being afraid of men, you should be pissed off at men that make women afraid.
Nobody wants to be lumped in with a bunch of people they find disgusting, which is what the question is about. I can fully understand women replying the way they do, but I can also fully understand men getting upset over the implication. It's bullshit ragebait and dividing us unnecessarily.
If you're upset over the implication then I have bad news for you: every time you're walking down the street and about to pass a woman, the exact same thought is likely going through her head. There's a very high chance that said thought is from prior experiences, too.
The key thing is that it's not about you, it's not an attack on your or your character, it's about how women feel. I can appreciate why the question feels like rage bait, but you have to also consider that the only reason it feels like rage bait is because so many women feel the way they do and you have to ask why that is. You then have to consider your position, if you would rather that women didn't feel that way, what are you going to do about it? If anything.
The implication that their unknown behavior makes them potentially dangerous gets them upset to the point that they lash out and show exactly that their unknown behavior is, in fact, dangerous? No, I don't understand it, and I understand it proves that the question is right. If this makes someone upset, that person is the danger. It is not divisive because it has always been true for everyone who is subject to it, what makes you upset is that it is being pointed out and explained to you why it has always been bad and why this divide has always been there while you pretended that it didn't exist. I don't get upset when someone points out the existence of a problem that I already knew was there. Hell, even if I didn't know it was there, my reaction is oh shit is that an issue what can we do about this, not how dare you show this to me.