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But not getting signals is the default from people who don't know you. How are you expecting to cross into a place where you are getting signals if you always stop before actually interacting with someone?
If you can't flirt with people you're basically closing yourself off to 80% of the world who might give you a chance after a single conversation.
Go interact with people. Some of those people will give you signals to back off. Some will not give signals at all. Some will give signals to continue. If the "no signals" means stop to you, you're gonna have a rough time even making friends.
Then how do you properly give signals of liking the other person? Do I genuinely need to be blunt and just say I like her? Do I need to just straight up ask her out on a date? Do I need to flirt? As in use pick up lines or something?
P.s. please don't tell me to just be myself.
No, that's the opposite of what people should be doing. Asking someone on a date before having a conversation with them is creepy and weird. But simply having a conversation isn't much of a commitment, and gives the opportunities for both sides to learn about whether they should want to be interested, and then, if so, send the signals of interest if the other person.
Expressing attraction to someone who hasn't sent you signals is often unattractive in itself. So initiate some kind of interaction without sending a signal of attraction, because you should legitimately want to know more before being attracted.