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[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Sounds like you're having social dysphoria rather than not really wanting to be a woman. As you said, cis women had a lifetime to learn, but we don't. That doesn't mean we can't catch up, nor does it mean we aren't allowed to make mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes and "female socialization" is fairly cultural.

[–] VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Right, but cis women get to make mistakes in the context of being cis women. It's a larger problem when we fuck it up. That's just my take, I do really appreciate any and all advice I can get from trans ladies with more life experience than I.

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I wouldn't say I have more life experience, it's just that I've learned to not beat myself up over social mistakes. I've literally never been socially "normal" thanks to my autism, so transitioning didn't really make my level of awkwardness worse. Yes I wasn't used to it and yes I make mistakes, but I've always been a weirdo so at least I'm a socially inept woman rather than a socially inept man.

[–] VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm a certified aspie, so for me it's more like 50/50 normal vs awkward. Basically I have my shit together in a neurotypical fashion most days, and I'm absolutely devastated when my symptoms start displaying.

That could be why I'm having trouble. I'm already used to the types of awkwardness you get from male circles. Idk. The question that floats around my mind is, "Since I have autism, am I able to truly understand the presentation aspect of gender?"

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

"Since I have autism, am I able to truly understand the presentation aspect of gender?"

You'll probably have to learn them more explicitly than intuitively, like most social customs when you're autistic. That doesn't mean you won't eventually figure things out, and it will probably be easier than learning male social norms. I still don't fully understand men, while understanding women has been easier, even when I make mistakes.

[–] VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Yeah, I need to drop the whole "if it's not perfect then why do it" attitude.

This might be an invasive question, but would you care to share how long you've been on your journey? Not that I intend to disregard your advice, it can just be hard for me to tell the difference between experienced reassurance and fresh-faced optimism.

I came out over two years ago and started HRT a year and a half ago. While I still lack a sense of fashion and am kinda depressed because of the state of the world, I have a passing voice and appearance for the most part (clothing is my big shortfall).