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I've been feeling the same way recently, and I'm glad to know I'm not alone, though I am sorry you're feeling uncertain.
I've been on E for about 9 months now, and as I stand on the precipice of being obviously trans to everyone around me, I'm less sure I want it.
Other than (most of) my family, the people around me are supportive. I was even in my friend's wedding as a woman.
But, the further into my transition I get, I notice more the differences between cis women and myself that only living through a girlhood from birth would fix. Everyone is accepting, and yet still I feel the divide between myself and women. Even when people around me are being affirming, it feels like they're doing so to satisfy my ego.
When I started my transition, my expectations were that I would finish 5 years of HRT, and most likely be clockable. Now, I'm not so sure that's going to be the case. It's going great, and I think I'll probably pass pretty well most of the time.
I look at the benefits HRT has had on me, and I find it hard to deny that I have gender dysphoria. I'm slowly dropping my bad habits, my mental fog has disappeared, I feel much more comfortable being myself, etc. But I worry about the social aspect. My wife always asks, "But if you didn't have to worry about being treated differently, would you still transition?"
My answer up until now was an emphatic yes, but then I realized that it's a hypothetical. Try as one might, we are inseparable from the society in which we live. Gender is a performance, so we are always going to need someone for which to perform.
I do have a bit of social anxiety and imposter syndrome, and that has gotten worse as I'm overly concerned with coming across the wrong way or being a 'fake woman.' Do let me clarify, I believe trans women are women and trans men are men. I believe that HRT does affect the brain, and it does partially gender one's thought processes. But I see my wife interacting with her girl friends, and I see a lifetime of socialization that I will not be able to match.
Even though, realistically, I could match it. I guess it would just feel like acting? I just can't let myself have womanhood, for some reason.
I don't intend any of what I said to discourage or encourage you in any particular direction. I just have been feeling the same way, and virtually nobody is talking about this. Good luck figuring yourself out.
Sounds like you're having social dysphoria rather than not really wanting to be a woman. As you said, cis women had a lifetime to learn, but we don't. That doesn't mean we can't catch up, nor does it mean we aren't allowed to make mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes and "female socialization" is fairly cultural.
Right, but cis women get to make mistakes in the context of being cis women. It's a larger problem when we fuck it up. That's just my take, I do really appreciate any and all advice I can get from trans ladies with more life experience than I.
I wouldn't say I have more life experience, it's just that I've learned to not beat myself up over social mistakes. I've literally never been socially "normal" thanks to my autism, so transitioning didn't really make my level of awkwardness worse. Yes I wasn't used to it and yes I make mistakes, but I've always been a weirdo so at least I'm a socially inept woman rather than a socially inept man.
I'm a certified aspie, so for me it's more like 50/50 normal vs awkward. Basically I have my shit together in a neurotypical fashion most days, and I'm absolutely devastated when my symptoms start displaying.
That could be why I'm having trouble. I'm already used to the types of awkwardness you get from male circles. Idk. The question that floats around my mind is, "Since I have autism, am I able to truly understand the presentation aspect of gender?"
You'll probably have to learn them more explicitly than intuitively, like most social customs when you're autistic. That doesn't mean you won't eventually figure things out, and it will probably be easier than learning male social norms. I still don't fully understand men, while understanding women has been easier, even when I make mistakes.
Yeah, I need to drop the whole "if it's not perfect then why do it" attitude.
This might be an invasive question, but would you care to share how long you've been on your journey? Not that I intend to disregard your advice, it can just be hard for me to tell the difference between experienced reassurance and fresh-faced optimism.
I came out over two years ago and started HRT a year and a half ago. While I still lack a sense of fashion and am kinda depressed because of the state of the world, I have a passing voice and appearance for the most part (clothing is my big shortfall).