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I gave up on dating a while back. Nothing but red flags out there. Fleshlights are the answer. I've got way more time to spend on hobbies by not dating. Some people may think it's sad and pathetic, but my life is peaceful and mostly stress free. So I'm good with it.
good for you. i gave up dating like 6 years ago and my life improved massively.
the worst thing that ever happened to me was having girlfriends. all they did was make every issue in my life worse, and cause issues where there were not. funny thing about life being single is that... i have no issues or problems and most of my goals wer easily achievable without someone nagging me and telling me how awful/stupid my goals are.
sex was nice. i miss it. but the bullshit that i had to deal with to get sex was just... ruining my life emotionally, financially, and health wise.
and everytime i try to date again... it's the same crap. being told that I'm stupid/wrong/bad and should change my entire life to meet her preferences. or being told that i am a project boyfriend because i'm not a globe trotting, fashion forward, multi millionaire that every woman i meet seems to think is what she 'deserves'.
phew, those sound like terrible girlfriends. Sorry. There are supportive people out there I swear
I always had a high libido, but then I went through a period of about 18 months with a medical issue, and came out of it with a significantly lowered libido.
I was planning on telling my doctor about it, I probably need testosterone supplements or something, but I realized that I was getting a lot done without sex constantly intruding on my thoughts. Frankly, it's been liberating.
I had a good run as a young man, with plenty of great memories to peruse. Now I have hobbies.
It's not sad and pathetic, especially if that's what you want.