Dad for a Minute

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If you need encouragement, advice or just a hug this is the right community for you. Your "dad for a minute" is here to help. Moms are welcome too.

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How do you know when to give up on someone? (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by IronBird@lemmy.world to c/dadforaminute@lemmy.world

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considering the topic of this community, it should be obvious who i'm referring to...some people never should have had kids in the first place, and arent worth the heart/headache of worrying yourself with...right?

edit/ i realize this actually might have been too vague, i mean having piece of shit for a father. when do you just giveup even bothering to keep that connection going?

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[–] snooggums@piefed.world 2 points 2 days ago

Depends on the person/relationship and the balance of good vs bad interactions.

I have ghosted family because the only real interactions for several years was the obligated holiday visits and they always involved being stressed before and after due to conflicts between different people. Nothing direct or blowing up into arguments, just a lot of small slights that added up over the years. There wasn't enough benefits for the negatives, and obligated fun isn't fun.

Actual direct conflict would have ended it years prior, because relationships are an ongoing thing and if they sour then they don't need to continue. Unless there is some other thing like ending it would cut off access to someone else, retaining a relationship that is a net negative is going to be an unnecessary strain on mental health.

If things were bad and they were obviously trying to do better then maybe it would be worth keeping a relationship for long term goals, but there is still a limit on how many chances they get.