Dad for a Minute

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If you need encouragement, advice or just a hug this is the right community for you. Your "dad for a minute" is here to help. Moms are welcome too.

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How do you know when to give up on someone? (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by IronBird@lemmy.world to c/dadforaminute@lemmy.world

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considering the topic of this community, it should be obvious who i'm referring to...some people never should have had kids in the first place, and arent worth the heart/headache of worrying yourself with...right?

edit/ i realize this actually might have been too vague, i mean having piece of shit for a father. when do you just giveup even bothering to keep that connection going?

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[–] How_do_I_computah@lemmy.world -1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I think it's important to honor/respect your father. If you were born into the same situation with the same genes, upbringing, environment, and family you can't say you would do any better. Maybe he is doing the best he understands how to do.

I also believe in forgiveness. Your dad might be a piece of shit that did a lot of damage to you. Holding that against him is limiting your life more than his.

However I don't think forgiveness and respect require you to make yourself vulnerable. These are both things you can do from a distance.

Respect him but understand that he is showing you who he is and not who you want him to be. You have to control how close you want to let this person get to you. For some people it is good to temporarily put some distance while you figure out how you want to run things in your life instead of trying to live by rules you learned while living with your parents.

I understand I didn't actually answer your question. If you think he is legitimately dependent on you and you can help him out of love then I think you shouldn't give up on him. If you think you just have a duty to "worry about him" I would say you probably don't.