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Having gay friends taught me so much about this and why drug use is a big problem.
I can't imagine having to play a character everyday instead of being myself and the mental toll that would take, looking for any kind of escape from that makes sense.
Stay strong my friends.
This also describes autism. I have often said that there's no ego under the mask. I just wear what's appropriate for the occasion, like a suit to a wedding, interview, or funeral. Yes it's taxing, yes I have people I can be more "myself" around, but that still feels like a less-maintainance-heavy mask. I'm just putting on a lesser-energy show with people I'm chill with.
When I'm alone, I'm just a floating void of emotion and wants that meows back at it's cat.
And given how common autism is among queer people (trans and ace people in particular), we have the fun task of dealing with the results of both!
I certainly can feel the "no ego under the mask." I don't drink or take any similar drugs, yet I find myself affected by the drinking of others as I subconsciously adjust myself to fit the occasion, for example.
Yeah this meme only misses the 20 lost years I spent high and drunk and mentally ill. But better late than never. And now I help people by creating a space for people like us to heal together. Best I can do to fix it.