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Do you feel horrible when your girlfriend pays for the dates, trips, etc.? (sopuli.xyz)
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If your girlfriend makes a lot more than you, and she pays for your dates, trips, etc., do you feel bad about it or no?

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[–] confusedpuppy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 2 weeks ago

If someone likes me and wants to spend their time and money on me, that would not be an issue at all. They are doing that because they want to do those things for me.

I would feel guilty if they continually spent all that effort on me and I never gave anything in return. I would feel guilty because I am taking advantage of their generosity. I always make an effort to give back and it doesn't always involve money.

I like to give back in simple ways. Like cleaning up for them. Listening to them. Treating them like they are an individual with the power to do things and make decisions for themselves. Doing things with them that they enjoy. Being there with them in the moment.

Love isn't a money transaction. It's something that has existed long before money became a thing that people created. It would continue to exist even if money disappeared all together tomorrow. It's a feeling that varies greatly between each person and can't always be described or defined.

I would like you to notice that I made no mention of women specifically in my comment because the other people that choose to spend time with you or myself shouldn't matter. It doesn't matter if they are male, female, or anything inbetween or out between that definition. They are simply people just like us.

Treat people like people and they will show you love and appreciation in their own way, be it buying you a meal or simply being there in the moment with you.