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[Q & Vent] How to cope with pregnancy dysphoria? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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See title. How do I even cope with never being able to get pregnant? I mourn the fact that I never even once had the opportunity to get pregnant, to feel life in me developing, and all that. Of all things, this gives me the greatest dysphoria. I want to have wider hips and larger boobs, and even though I'm 28 (so hip widening likely won't happen... maybe surgery?) and I'm 7 months on HRT, I feel like it's not satisfactory yet. It has made me so much happier and I feel much more liberated having HRT, but even before I knew trans was a thing, even early on, I still had the desire to eventually be able to get pregnant.

I don't care that it's a lot of morning sickness, feeling miserable and extremely tired, heavy, and all that - I experienced long illness before. But having someone at the end of it, feeling the baby kick... I heavily miss that I cannot experience that. I'm happy for those who can, but I wish I could, and I want to actively fight for it. Even if I die or suffer horribly, then at least I will have contributed to further understanding so that people may one time experience it.

To that child whom I will likely not have the luck of carrying -- may life find you when it calls you. I love you with all my heart and I wish I were able to see you. If I ever do succeed in that, then I swear solemnly to thank the world for its bounty and gifts; and regardless I will support all who struggle through life.

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[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago

Sorry for the flippant response. I should have thought about how it would come across.