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Whenever a centrist is rude to you, you can infer that they have decided that you are less than human (lemmy.sdf.org)

submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S@lemmy.sdf.org to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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The only thing that centrists really stand for is decorum. Anything is permissible as long as it is done legally in "norm-respecting" ways within the framework of liberal democracy.

So when a centrist is rude to you, they are telegraphing the fact that they don't see you as human. Humans deserve decorum, in fact it's all they deserve in the establishment centrist view, so you can infer that a rude centrist has decided you are no longer human.

So frankly if I ever blow up at you on Lemmy, this is probably why, because I have less than zero patience for rudeness from people whose literally only virtue is decorum. If you treat me like a person, then we can get along. Posting this so I have something to link to next time if happens 😆

Edit: I tell people politely but explicitly when they're being rude and give them a chance to correct their course...but if they double down on being rude, then I gotta quintuple down on being exponentially more rude because that's the only language they'll listen to.

Furthermore, this also doesn't apply if you have literally any more principles than maintaining decorum.

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[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Rudeness is in the eye of the beholder and greatly spun the beholder's current mood and recent experience filtering all new info.

[–] PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S@lemmy.sdf.org -2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Yeah I'm not building a robot, I'm talking about how I personally deal with rude centrists. So I can be a little imprecise here.

So of course there's going to be some people who are rude by accident...which is why I politely tell them "hey that was super rude, why are you being rude to me"? Because maybe I said something rude by mistake? We all make mistakes, we all make little miscommunications.

This post is really for the people who previously demonstrated that the only thing they actually stand for is decorum, then I have given an olive branch by saying "hey you're being super rude, what did I do to deserve this?", and then they're rude again. After that I'm exploding to show them in the only language they understand that I am their equal and I refuse to argue unless and until we can agree on that basic fact.