Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
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This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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I read the sidebar, and it appears comments from everyone are welcomed here as long as they're supportive, so I hope you don't mind a cis guy chiming in.
What I've said to friends and family of various persuasions is that there's someone for everyone, but your preferences and attributes can greatly change the viable pool for you. If I understand your post correctly, what you'd prefer is a feminine or androgenous guy who wants to top. That's a somewhat small pool. But on top of that, you say you're too busy to care about anyone, so you're asking for someone who wants a relationship with you, but not to expect much from you in return. I'm sure there are people who would be fine with that combination, but it's a really small pool.
Maybe you're in a phase where you should focus on yourself and whatever it is keeping you busy, and just go on occasional casual dates if/when someone catches your eye. When you're in a place to care for another person, maybe you'll have worked out what type rings all the bells.
I think you're trying to help. I'll just say that cis people make relationships with those of different genders asymmetrical. I don't. I throw out the heteropatriarchal mindset along with any notion that a relationship is some kind of trade or whatever you're implying by "in return." I'm nobody's girlfriend, I'm a doppelganger for my hypothetical partner and will take exactly what I give.
Yes, casual dates are good. I need lots more of those. And cuddles.
I think you read something into that post that wasn't there. Relationships should be mutually beneficial.
Good luck finding your special someone/s
I do read into things a lot. Like how you ended your post with "someone/s" rather than "someone(s)" considering /s is internet code for sarcasm. Sorry, I've just dealt with a lot of hostility in the past so I'm on high alert for it.
My bad. I was not meaning sarcasm. I genuinely wish you well