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I'm a victim of false accusations.
It cost me over 100k in the custody battle. Every cent was worth it and I now have full custody, but I lost years of a relationship with my child. She tried so hard to ruin my life but after multiple frivolous civil lawsuits and CPS investigations alongside the custody battle the truth emerged.
I didn't react. I didn't play into her ploys. I kept a level head. I worked on bettering myself rather than dropping to her level. Despite all that it was the single darkest and hardest times I've ever endured. I'm extremely fortunate that I had a good outcome but I'm afraid that isn't the norm.
False accusations are extremely dangerous.
o7
dint you sue for libel and slander?
Nope.
I've consulted with an attorney and they were very confident I would win. The problem is that I would essentially be spending a lot of money for a piece of paper. She already owes me tens of thousands of dollars in attorneys fees that I will likely never see. Any additional judgement would just go on the pile. You can't get blood from a rock.
I feel it would be better to spend that money giving my kid have a better life.
As I was told yesterday. It's just a joke man, have a sense of humor. Issa meme.
Not just straight up believing women is misogynistic and makes you a bad man!
Shut up dork
I don't think saying you had a good outcome (your words) when being accused of sexual assault in a thread about people accused of sexual assault not having bad outcomes is the flex you think it is.
Your story, traumatic as it may be for you, does not negate the culture that necessitates whisper networks, kept muliple friends and relatives from coming forth about their assaults, causes ~80% of assaults to go unreported, etc., that this post is about.
You have the ability to say you have to moral high ground and tell your story. You don't seem to get that not everybody gets to be heard when it comes to sexual assault. The next time you see somebody talking about rape culture, especially in a community that isn't for you, please take the opportunity to stfu and give them space to do so.
I'm so sorry to get in, I really like to follow this community from afar and support as I can, but I hope you'll allow me in this space for a different perspective.
How I read it, you're slamming down a positive story about someone who managed to supposedly beat baseless accusations (I don't know the guy, might as well be an AI story), by dismissing it because he wasn't sexually assaulted himself?
There's a couple of issues, and the first is that OP image is generic enough that it doesn't limit the scope of the conversation to sexual abuse victims - and I understand that people sometimes try to crowd out difficult and serious conversations about sexual abuse with tangents, but here it does feel to be a valid comment to the OP image.
This is especially the case because, while the guy's comment doesn't go into details of what the ex brought up against him, custody fights can become quite dark with allegations of rape, violence and even child abuse.
The main point is that baseless accusations are incredibly hurtful to everyone, not only to those who they target, but especially to the victims who make real ones, because they work to undermine them.
The image seems to imply baseless accusations are OK because real accusations are frequently meaningless.
This is not true, and we cannot allow it to be true, ever.