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As others have said - this is not really how to get girls to be into you. This is one particular person's fetish. They like goth-y, androgenous guys.
If you are a goth-y, androgenous guy, and you have wanted to wear black eyeliner but felt nervous about it and have been putting it off - here's your cue. Go do that.
If you aren't, then don't do that. It might help you out a little since, as OP implies, it will make you stand out. But since you aren't presenting yourself, but rather a charicature of someone else, you will feel inauthentic in the look, women will notice that you feel weird, and you won't be much better off than you started. Maybe worse off, if your normal outfit was already working.
In the... Let's call it the "autistic guys getting laid community", there is a lot of chatter around "archetype". How you dress and style yourself is a conscious decision you make every day, and it is how you make your first impression on any women you want to sleep with. So if you were to introduce yourself to a sexy somebody, what would you want to tell them about yourself? Well, first you need to tell them that you give enough of a shit about what you look like to put some time into looking good. Next, you'd want to tell them interesting things about yourself - what you value, what your job or hobbies are, what communities you are part of. But at the same time, you want to make sure you are communicating well - putting together an outfit based on "I just like it" and "this has something to do with who I am" is like introducing yourself in mandarin to a girl in Barcelona. Fitting your outfit to something that is immediately understandable within your broader culture is called dressing to your "archetype". Are you a skateboarder? Then dress like a skateboarder - stylishly ripped jeans, t shirt, flannel, beanie. A businessman? Wear a suit or a polo. A communist revolutionary? Rock your Che beret!
What makes women universally cream themselves? Say it with me: confidence. And a confident man is going to dress in a way that stands out and expresses who he is, because he knows that this is a great way to attract others to him who are similar. So: look good; look different; look like something identifiable.
I was expecting the big paragraph to be makeup tips. I was very disappointed.
Sorry brochacho - my archetype does some basic skin care and then hits the gym. Cause I'm a big, strong manly man who don't want no makeup. I'm sure somebody else here has makeup tips for you, though!