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i've posted here before. i'm in an mlm relationship with my boyfriend of only 3 months. he struggles with depression and is probably addicted to video games as his coping mechanism. he said he didn't know if he still loved me last night and that he didn't know if we should even be dating because people would see him as a bad bf.

he also said that most of the time, he feels excited and happy to see me and hear from me as i'm the perfect bf, but sometimes he feels nothing for me due to his depression or stress and that while he usually bounces back to being happy again, he knows in his heart he likes me. he says he wants to stay with me and doesn't want me to break up. i don't wanna have to either.

he also says that he can't feel love for me like he once could with his exes issac and gabriel due to trauma, although he still loves me. he barely makes time for me. sometimes he's busy, which i get, but for the remaining time, he has time but spends 99% of it on playing games and doesn't even "have time" to play games with me because he tends to put his interests first. he also said that he was a horrible bf, and that makes me sad, because he really isn't. he just isn't affectionate even if i ask him to because it's "the way he is".

i've mostly heard from others that his love for me is platonic or that he does have feelings for me, but doesn't know what he wants.

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[–] classybattery@sh.itjust.works 1 points 19 hours ago

it was his explanation as to why he wasn't showing love to me, thanks!