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my boyfriend plays video games every chance he gets (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 1 day ago by classybattery@sh.itjust.works to c/mentalhealth@lemmy.world
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now, i don't know if it's such a big deal, i'm (a trans man) just getting it "off my chest" (that's why i posted here). i love my boyfriend, but sometimes i wish he talked more to me. i understand, though. he's been struggling with mental health, but even when he says he's happy, he barely has any time for me because he's playing video games. he didn't even want to put the game down to say hi to me or text me because he thought it was annoying to do so, so i told him i'd let him play the game. i understand he plays games when he's bored or to cope with his life and depression, but he barely talks to me because that's how much he loves video games. we talk a few times per day and he says stuff like that"hi, i love you" "you're so handsome" but other than that, not really anything.

please be respectful, i don't need a rant on how much i suck as a bf, i'm really trying to figure out what to do to help.

i reposted this to mental health because it's kind of about his mental health struggles.

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[–] classybattery@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

i'll talk to him, thank you so much. he doesn't put in a lot of effort to text sometimes because he thinks the game is more important and can't put it down. i feel like he'd think i basically made him lose.

[–] TheTimeKnife@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This is more of a face to face, or at least voice call conversation. Yeah it sucks interrupting his coping method, but it's just not a split focus type conversation and sometimes you have to be a little uncomfortable during a difficult conversation. He can't really opt out of it either by ignoring it. It's a conversation about his behavior and how it impacted you. If you want, you can let him know you need to talk and schedule it. Some people do better with time to emotionally prepare. You can do this, it's always harder to get started than keep it going on these things. If he literally has no time in the foreseeable future to talk to his partner about something important to them, he doesn't really have time for a relationship. Nobodies patience is endless, and you shouldn't hold it against yourself if you find your limit.

[–] classybattery@sh.itjust.works 2 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

thank you so much, i will talk to him and asked him to play with me so we could do what he likes together :D

[–] TheTimeKnife@lemmy.world 2 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Im happy to hear that, hope you guys have a lot of fun.

[–] classybattery@sh.itjust.works 2 points 15 hours ago

thanks so much!!