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affirmations please? [vent] (kind of vent) (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 3 days ago by classybattery@sh.itjust.works to c/ftm@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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sometimes i feel like my mannerisms are too girly/unpassable even though im a guy (a trans one or under the umbrella like the community im posting in), like i know it doesn't mean anything, but someone told someone they wouldn't pass as male if they used emojis like 😭 or ☺️ even though my bf uses them all the time. idk, i know im a guy and there's nothing wrong with femininity, but still, this is a lil rant i guess

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[–] glilimith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 days ago

Masculinity is in a bit of a crisis right now. Cis men are trying to (or refusing to) figure out how to excise the toxic elements and make a culture better for them and those around them.

This puts trans men in a weird position. We can cling to the old ways, hurting ourselves and others, and in doing so scrape together enough acceptance to pass, or we can risk being called fakers by living in a healthier way.

Personally, I think we're in a good position to lead by example. We are the self-made men and we can decide to leave out the pieces of masculinity that don't benefit us to make for ourselves and others a model of what being a man can and should look like.

Unfortunately, this does nothing to help the passing problem, and tbh I wouldn't be someone to ask. But imo you shouldn't have to give up things you enjoy just because society says things like "men don't use emojis".