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I mean, most of my friends have overdosed or moved by now, few suicides, and a car crash. Now I'm left with few non-superficial friends, but I was emotionally open with all those dudes. Making new intense emotional connections after the near-trauma-bonding of school? Maybe one in 15 years.
That said, am I supposed to want a woman who, while I can be emotionally open with my true friends, if I try being emotionally open with her she's "mankeeping" and all of a sudden being there for loved ones is bad? Well, I don't. I want a woman who is my true, non-superficial friend and therefore can also be emotionally there for me as my friends are/were, RIP, and as she expects me to be for her. Honestly this article is kinda fucked up the more I think about it. Getting real "I told him I wanted a sensitive guy but then he cried and I got the ick" vibes on this one.
Tbh first of all if the woman wants a "real man" with no emotion, lean into it, don't lie and say you want a sensitive man when you don't. Secondly if you want some non-emotional, purely sexual relationship? Just fucking tell me that. I can 100% do that, just tell me we're just fucking, I can do that too and then I know not to waste emotional time on you.
Spot on, I've learned the hard way to never trust someone who harangues me about my feelings. If they're too tactless to make the offer and leave the ball in your court, they can't be trusted with what you confide in them to begin with. Willingly feeding sensitive information about your feelings is a risky game, it's important to know whether or not they're just aping at stock phrases about emotional health beforehand, or actually someone who can be relied upon to give objective support.
Don't dorget that they often use it against men in disagreements they aren't "winning". I've seen a few videos of girls saying that is exactly what they will do if you dare open up to them.
Low, low, low. It's limbo low, right on the ground with the dirt.