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I'm a childfree woman. I am being sterilized in less than 2 weeks. I have a very very long list of reasons I don't want kids. I won't bore anyone by typing them out.
What I find most interesting in this thread is how people have so much of an option on other people's choices still. It's 2025, can we just let each other live?
No, it is not immoral to have kids. The world has always been messed up and it will continue to be until we all die out. Maybe that will happen in the next generation, maybe it won't happen for another 50 generations. We cannot know either way.
No, it is not immoral to not have kids. You do not have a responsibility to continue your bloodline or some nonsense. You can still be invested in the future even if you don't personally have kids.
I wish everyone had put their gender in their replies though. As a general rule, I often see more childfree women than men. I think this is because women are often put in that caregiver role earlier than men and they see how hard it is. Also women have to do the pregnancy/birth part and that seems awful. Men think of the time they'll have to teach and play with their kids, women imagine having to cook a nutritious meal every night or get called negligent. Of course that's not always the dynamic but you have to acknowledge it swings that way.
Woman here in my mid 30s. I went through a few rough relationships, and in the last longterm one shifted my mindset from "of course I'll have kids" to "I won't put my body through that"
Since leaving that relationship, being in and out of therapy, and meeting someone that made me feel love in a way I didn't think was possible, I've changed my mind back. I'd be fine with it if it never happened, but there's something incredibly romantic about it to me. Being in such a vulnerable state where I'd need help but be supported. Putting my body through that, then having a common goal in raising them as a team.