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Do you want kids? Why or why not? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 2 days ago by Anne_Marie@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I’ll start. I’m a 37-year-old woman, and I’ve always been indifferent about having children. I love peace and quiet, but at the same time, I wouldn’t mind having kids if my partner really wanted them.

I’ve been with my husband for 13 years now and married for 11. I’m his second (and final) wife. He has three kids with his first wife. She was supportive of him taking a second wife, with just one request: no more children. That solidified my decision not to have kids.

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[–] Anne_Marie@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Fingers crossed for you! And from one woman to another, I completely understand and respect her request. An extra wife - sure, that doesn’t really change much in the grand scheme of family dynamics. But extra kids from that wife? That would definitely shift the long-established balance. She has her role as matriarch, the kids have their places - it’s all settled. It’s not my goal to disrupt that. She’s always shown me respect, and I do the same.

[–] Pirate@feddit.org 10 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

I'm confused. Is this some sort of polygamous relationship you're involved in?

Otherwise, I don't really see how it's that other woman's (I assume ex-wife) business how many children her ex-husband has.

[–] Anne_Marie@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yeah. I'm a Canadian married to an Emirati.

[–] Pirate@feddit.org 5 points 2 days ago

Gotcha.