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I got called a lesbian slur today (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) by dipshit@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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I know that it's an awful and homophobic slur but it made me feel weirdly validated to be called a slur that's usually only used on women (lesbians). I don't know, it's weird. Part of me is upset that they called me a homophobic slur but a part of me is also euphoric for being referred to, even indirectly as a woman. Does anyone else relate to this experience?

(By the way I'm a transfem lesbian.)

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[–] lwhjp@lemmy.sdf.org 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Ewphoria, I guess?

Although TBH I though it was just another queer slang term rather than a slur. Maybe there are cultural differences?

[–] dipshit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 day ago

I think it has been reclaimed by the community, though I'm doubtful that the old man with a MAGA hat who called me a dyke is aware of that or using it in that kind of way (yes he was literally wearing a MAGA hat).