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What would/do you wear to a funeral? (lemmy.world)
submitted 1 month ago by Okokimup@lemmy.world to c/WomensStuff@lazysoci.al
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I just lost a family member (not a close one, but I did love him). Not sure yet when the funeral will be, but I'll need to plan ahead, and I'm not sure where to start. When my boyfriend died (8 years ago) we made copies of his favorite tshirt and wore those. I'm guessing this will be a slightly dresser function.

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[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm really sorry that you've lost them, you weren't close but the love was there. It's always hard losing someone, it's so final and it brings up lots in your head. How are you doing?

For funerals I always ask the family and loved ones. Every family wants different things, some want relaxed and informal, some want elegant, some absolutely don't want black.

If there's no dress code I personally go for semi formal plain black. So black trousers, plain black top, black boots, bag and then a black blazer or cardigan. I keep jewellery minimal and silver.

I pack in my bag my usual things plus water, several packs tissues, protein bar, mints, clothing delinter and sewing kit. I don't want anyone having any additional stress if a button comes off or anything!

Do the family get on or could there be tension?

[–] Okokimup@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Thank you. I'm just crying lightly here and there, which is healthy. We were friends when I was a teen, but I haven't seen him for several years now, and I wish I'd been able to. I don't expect any tension.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Yes that sounds really healthy, and good there'll be no tension. Lean on us if you need anything ❤️

[–] Okokimup@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I appreciate you.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 3 points 1 month ago

And I you mate ❤️